- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
Boyfriend or Best Friend has been hinting for a few months that he “has a date” in mind for when he wants to propose and even told my sister what it was. I do want to be surprised and so I was okay with this. The only hint he gave was that it would be before 2011 and he would like to get married in 2011 (not a lot of time to plan!)
He recently started a new job (about a month and a half ago) but he really doesn’t like it. There is another place hiring in my hometown where he has been wanting to move and he has a weekend job with a good friend as a “mobile recording studio” that would be easier to do if we were to move.
Two weeks ago he changed his mind. Or so I thought. He sent me a text from work saying that we needed to talk (mean! He knew I would think the worst 😛 ). When he got home he told me that he had been doing a lot of thinking and that he realized that it was silly to wait on a date when he knew that I was the one he wanted to be with for the rest of his life and that within the month he wanted to be engaged and he wanted to take me ring shopping. He was so excited about it and it was so cute to see him like that. I was over the moon.
Well, last night he changed his mind again. He admitted to me that he’s still in the mode where he is not ready to start saving his money and he is still very much in “I have money I want to buy toys” mode. It is his first job so I understand and he’s actually turned out to be really good with money. His first “big purchase” was a very nice interface ($400) for his recording job. When I teased him about visiting the jewelry store while at the mall the other day (we’ve gone once before just to look around) he said “I’m not going to go with you right here! I have my date.” Now I’m confused.
I’m a rational person and so I’m not so much concerned that it hasn’t happened yet, I’m just disappointed in myself for getting my hopes up. He seemed so set in that he wanted to be engaged this month that I started really getting ready for it and now I can’t help but feel a little down. I know I’m being ridiculous and I am young enough that waiting is not an issue, but how to I keep from disappointing myself by getting my hopes up again? He mentioned going ring shopping by himself while I am in New Jersey with my family for a week at the end of July and I don’t want to get my hopes up again. I know that he will do it when he is ready and I really don’t talk about it unless he brings it up. I’m not trying to rush him, I’m just trying to keep myself in check. Any advice on how to do that?