(Closed) I feel so stupid being here after all this…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I’m sorry to hear this 🙁 Your sister is very lucky to have you and I’m confident your family will get through this difficult time.

  Before having me my mom had several miscarriages, sometimes things happen for a reason (atleast I like to think so because I wouldn’t be here).

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Bellanouva: Honey I don’t think anyone (but a troll who would quickly be taken care of by mods) would be heartless enough to start debating abortion with you here. I am so sorry for the struggle your sister and family are going through right now, and I know it must be bringing up some really tough emotions for you as well. You seem like such a thoughtful, caring person and I’m sure your support is just invaluable to your sister right now. Things like this really do bring it all into perspective huh? Try to focus on how fortunate you are to have all the blessings you do have, for all the days that you have them.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

@Bellanouva: My mom has had a few abortions. You’re not alone. And like mango said, I don’t know anyone who would be heartless enough to say something to you. I’d [verbally] kick their butt in a heartbeat.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Honestly, I had an abortion myself for medical reasons just last month. I felt so protective of that fetus, but it had to be done due to risk of me and the child.

I understand the feeling of loss and my sympathy goes out to your sister and you.

I think she is very lucky to have you being there for her and I think it’s amazing that you are stepping back from your life to think of hers.

I would personally have loved to have someone like you there for me and I’m sure your sister will be grateful.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am so sorry dear… I cannot even imagine how painful that must be. you are a wonderful sister to have, she is very lucky. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Punch someone’s face throught the internet that decided this is any kind of time to start a debate. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Bellanouva:  I am really sorry you are going through this right now. I lost my dad on the 7th to cancer and although completely different, loss is loss and it hurts. Thank you for sharing about your experiences. It’s courageous coming out to the online world and telling your personal stories. I am not yet that brave, but hope to be. 

I see you are in Vancouver. Is that BC or WA? Are you looking for some resources around the same area? Or just online?

Hugs. I have had to manage this week by taking it minute by minute, not day by day. I would think acknowledging the baby is important but each person is different so I am not sure. And not forgetting, and maybe a check in and saying I am thinking of you…maybe a little comfort kit? Like get her some new tea, a journal, tissues and bath salts?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Also, I don’t know what kind of person your sister is, but perhaps she would welcome someone to listen to her.

Personally, I needed (and still do sometimes) just someone who sat there, held my hand and listened to me talk and talk and talk. Someone who wouldn’t mind if I repeated my self again and again. Someone who didn’t offer advice, but was there as I sorted through my mess.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I’m so sorry and I will be passing good thoughts on to you and your family.

You shouldn’t have to censor yourself because some people can’t resist the opportunity to get out a soapbox. Your past experience with loss can now help your sister cope with hers and look forward to her future. It’s wonderful that you can be there for her now. Best of luck to her and her family in recovering from this.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

I’m sorry for your loss and your sister’s loss too.  My prayers are with you and your family.  It is glad that you are reaching out to her. 

@elliegraye: and @Tunacupcakes: I am sorry for your losses also.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am really sorry to hear this about your sister. I know the feeling (I’ve made a post on this before) and the Bee has been soOOOoOOoo supportive of me. She will be fine. I pray for her and you as well.

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