- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
@iarebridezilla: I can SO commiserate. I have a 1-year-old and have gone through most of the same things over the past year. I also live in Alaska so the winter blues are even worse. My hubby has an awful work situation that I won’t bore you with, but it means I hardly ever see him and I’m alone with DD for most of the week.
First of all you need to give yourself a HUGE pat on the back. Your baby is still very young and you have it together way better than most moms I know (including myself at that stage)! Way to go!
Second, things will get better. Your daughter will get older, and with that comes better sleep and more joy. I still have the “going through the motions” feeling with everything I’m doing, but every week as my daughter grows and learns and becomes a more awesome person, there are more moments of joy punctuating the drudgery. She does so many funny things that are constantly making me laugh. It makes my days way better than they were when she was younger.
Hubby and I have never done date nights; we do lunch dates instead. Or we take our daughter out with us and do things as a family, which is more fun than being without her now that she’s older. You didn’t say anything about your sex life, but one thing that helped hubby and me reconnect was getting our sex life back on track. We set a minimum number of times per week that we want to have sex, and then we just make it happen, no excuses.
Consider joining a moms’ group. I joined one on meetup.com and take my daughter to a lot of playdates. She has fun playing with other kids, and I get to talk to other moms. I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom so we need that to get out of the house, but there are working moms in our group too, and weekend activities.