(Closed) I feel so tired. In my soul. (long)

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 93
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You have received lots of good suggestions, but I just want to point out that your daughter is going to start getting so much more interactive and fun in the next couple of months and she will become your best entertainment! The first 6 months or so are hard because they are basically cute, squishy little lumps, but once they start moving around and communicating, it’s so awesome! My little guy is almost 1 and we laugh hysterically every day at all of his new antics. For instance tonight I taught him how to “wiggle wiggle”, so now he shakes his bum on command. (And yes, I realize how lame this sounds, but when it’s your own kid, every new thing they do is endlessly entertaining!!). So hang in there. It really is going to get so much more fun!

Post # 94
Bee
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@iarebridezilla:  You should join a new mom’s group!! I went to college in Seattle and went back to visit a couple weeks ago, and one of my old friends has a 4-month-old and she’s made a ton of new friends in her mom’s group. And she and her hubs also go to a new parents’ group, where everyone brings their babies. If you want I can ask her how she found out about the group.

Post # 94
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1065 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

“1) We don’t have kids yet but what you’re describing is exactly what I’m afraid of. I am already the one “rage vacuuming” while he drinks beer and plays on his laptop on the couch. We just have different ideas of when things HAVE to be done.”

So many PPs have written similar things to this. I’ve gotta be honest, I am very suspicious of that attitude in men. While it’s less common now for a man to be all, “That’s woman’s work, woman!” there are ways of behaving that force the woman to do more housework. Like, oooh, your “way” is to leave everything until it gets to the point that *I* have to do it and you don’t do anything? How odd. My SO used to do the whole, “Come sit down, honey!” thing, as if telling me I don’t have to do what he ISN’T GOING TO DO was some kind of favor. We have gotten a lot better. I expect him to help me, and I help him with stuff he needs. I look at it like this – if a co-worker asked him to do something, he would do it right away, even if he wanted to “relax.” I deserve the same respect.<br /><br /><br />

Post # 95
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1937 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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Syzygy88:  OMG yes! I love my DH dearly but when he says he will do it “later” it just means that I will end up doing it and scrubbing in a furious rage. I know people clean at different rates etc etc but that would mean he got to it at some point….which is never. when he made a mess the other day, he seriously asked me where we kept the vacuum cleaner, and then didn’t know how to turn it on. What!? im not sure how you work on an issue like this, but at least we know other couples have the same point of friction.       

anyway, off of the tangent. I just wanted to say I am a loyal blog reader and haven’t missed an entry since you sent me the link a while ago. You make me laugh at work out loud all the time, and your baby is so freaking cute. like really. I always love your entries about mommy hood and your amazing paint drawings. πŸ˜‰ You are my kind of lady, you have a problem, ask for advice, and then take action to get it fixed! You give me hope that if I were ever feeling like this I would be able to do the same. Let us know how the classes work out, maybe one will make you feel better than the others but it’s great to try lots of new things! At the very least you gotta pick a night, drop Audrey off, and go spend some adult time with your husband. πŸ™‚  

Post # 97
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3636 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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iarebridezilla:  That is so great to hear! I don’t do yoga but the sound of the hot one really appeals to me, on day I shall tRyan it.

Post # 98
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11735 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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iarebridezilla:  is there a reason you can’t get a babysitter or have your family come down to watch baby so you guys can get out? If not, maybe DH can help organize a get together with the wives and you can attend while he stays home? Or have them all over to your place after baby is in bed?   

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