- 4 years ago
OK, I suppose I should post a trigger warning, just to alert other bees.
I’m going to try not to delve too into this because I’m afraid to post anything personally identifiable but here goes:
I found out my boyfriend’s best friend was stealing my panties and using them to masturbate. That’s the long story short. Basically, this guy and my bf were living with me in my parent’s house and recently they moved out. It was only a temporary thing. While they were here, my bf slept in my room and his friend slept in the guest room. My mom and my brother both alerted me to the fact he had women’s panties in his room, but since I had not seen them and couldn’t verify they were mine, honestly I figured they were his girlfriend’s (assuming also she knew he had them, of they were hers).
Well they haven’t even been gone a week, and my mom goes back there to clean the room. Today she brings me a literal handful (I counted seven pairs) of women’s underwear — every single one of them is mine. Two pairs were in his room; the rest had been stuffed under the bathroom sink (the bathroom is right outside of my room so maybe he was afraid to get caught with them, who knows?). All of them were crusty (ew), and there’s clearly a semen stain on one (the only pair dark enough to see it).
Bees, I feel absolutely sick. I have no idea what to do. I’ve told my bf and he intends to move out of where he and his friend are staying, but I don’t know if we should confront him or not. Really, what good would it do because short of having DNA, he’d just deny it. This isn’t the first skeevy thing he’s done either. He and his step brother can’t be around each other because he kept hitting on his SB’s girlfriend. I talked to the girl, and she said she made “no” abundantly clear, but he still flirted with her, touched her in small ways (his hand on her back or on her knee). My mom caught him watching porn in his room and come to find out, he’d racked up a $200 bill buying pay-per-view adult movies.
I’m so mad about all of this. I feel hurt, disgusted, violated. I let him into my home, and he rifled through my drawers and my dirty laundry and took articles of clothing meant only for mine and my boyfriend’s eyes.
I’ve thought about going to the police, but I doubt they’d do much but take a statement, if that. I wasn’t touched and it’s not like he broke into my home, so I feel it would be a waste of time. I don’t even know if we should confront this guy.