I feel terrible about my ring situation!

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I think you’re putting too much stock in one ring being your *engagement* ring. You will now have two beautiful rings, each with its own special meaning. Alternate them. 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

kim2711 :  Can you wear your grandma’s ring as a right hand ring?  Or was she planning to give it to you with the expectation that you’d wear it as your engagement ring? (hopefully she doesn’t expect that at this point, as you already have an e ring!)

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

Why does the grandmother’s ring have to be an engagement ring? You can still wear it without having to replace your current ER.  

I think it’s really strange that your grandmother wouldn’t give the ring to your Boyfriend or Best Friend to propose with in December, but suddenly wants to give it to you in February. Are you sure she wants you to have it? 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Could you combine the two? Are the metals/sones similar? My mum did this to make her current e ring. It was the ring that she got from my dad many years ago. When my gran passed, she got them both melted down and combined to make her e ring and wedding band from both. Nans Diamond was amazing so Mum had this reset as her E ring and then used the diamonds from her origional band and had them set into her wedding band. Her set is sentimental and stunning. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would just alternate them! You don’t have to wear your engagement ring every single day, you can switch between the two depending on your mood. Tons of women have alternate sets. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

So, say you use your grandmothers ring as an engagement ring and then end up getting divorced down the road. Is that going to make you feel weird about wearing Grandma’s ring as it will be a reminder of your failed marriage? (Hypothetical, of course, but these things do happen)

I would stick with what you have.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I’d rather have my own ring that represented my relationship with my future husband rather than an heirloom ring, but that’s just me.  If your Fiance knew that you’d prefer your grandmother’s ring over the one that he put thought into (not to mention his hard earned money) I bet he would feel awful.  You’re not going to picture your Fiance when you wear your grandmother’s ring – you’re going to picture her.

I would either wear it as an occassional RHR or alternate with your engagement ring.  I think you’re making this a bigger deal than it needs to be.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Could the promise ring you wear on your right hand be turned into a necklace? Or saved for a future child? 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Why can’t you just alternate the rings? They both have special meaning but for different reasons. I’d wear whichever one suits my mood for the day. I wear different wedding rings based on my mood; one is low key and one is super bling. It’s nice to have options. This doesn’t sound like a bad problem to have! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

Commenting just to add another option, although I think alternating rings like PPs said is a good idea.  If you want to wear your engagement ring, promise ring, and heirloom ring all daily, perhaps you could resize either the promise ring or heirloom and wear all three on different fingers.  Just another idea.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

I just don’t throw that much sentimentality into engagement rings. I love options and tastes change. 

I’m all for alternating the two. No harm in that. You may wear one more than the other but whatever. The more rings the more fun!

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