Post # 1
I sent them a week short of 2 months after the wedding. It was a smaller wedding, so I really should have been able to send them out more quickly than I did. But honestly I was a little depressed after it had passed. I was working to make up for days that I took off to be with my family. And my dad had health issues soon after.
Then my Mother-In-Law brought it up with my husband when she was complaining about me (He told her that they were being sent out shortly). While they were still in the mail, his aunt brought it up during an unrelated conversation. I didn’t want to seem as if I am ungrateful and as if I was just trying to snuff gifts from people and then disappear.
Post # 2
The last three weddings I attended I did not get a thank you until a year or more after the wedding! So 2 months is okay. They’ll get the card, you can make a phone call too to make sure they know you’re thankful, and it will all be swept under the rug soon enough! Don’t fret.
Post # 3
It’s easy to reply with a quick “their in the mail” and leave it at that. 2 months is a very acceptable timeline for you to send thank you cards; not something worth stressing over.
Post # 4
I recently received a thank you card almost exactly a year after a wedding I attended.
I will say though that one of our wedding guests brought up that they didn’t receive a thank you card from us— and it was because we never received their gift! It seems it actually did get lost in the mail. But anyway, I don’t think 2 months is super long. In fact, I think I sent out most of ours at the 2-3 month mark as well!
Post # 5
whatever, don’t sweat it. I just sent mine from a 9/28 wedding, and I’m pretty sure I may have missed some because I didnt use a check off list. oh well.
Post # 6
with in two months is a totally reasonable timeline and Im a stickler about etiquette stuff.
Post # 7
2 months is a totally acceptable time, but people can get offended no matter what you do. Frankly I always found it a bit odd that someone’s gratitude somehow isn’t considered legitimate until it’s written down on paper…nor do I understand why sending a late thank-you note (or legitimately forgetting to, once in a blue moon) is the equivalent of running over a child with your car. Everyone just assumes the worst of you if you send them out a day late. Etiquette culture needs to lighten up a little bit…
Post # 8
Did your Mother-In-Law forget it was her son’s wedding too? Same for the aunt…her nephew didn’t send them out either… They shouldn’t be judging just you. Last time I checked, it wasn’t just females who can pick up a pen and piece of paper.
Post # 9
im sorry bur who cares that much about thank you cards that feel necessary to bring it up in a conversation? don’t feel bad.
Post # 10
They’re complaining after less than 2 months?!? Rude on them, sorry you have to deal with that.
Post # 11
I’m still waiting for thank yous from a June wedding this year, a July wedding last year, and a May wedding the year before that.
Two months is fine.
If they want to complain, they can do it about your husband. It’s not totally your responsibility.
Post # 12
Thanks..I am a procrastinator a lot of the times..so I wasn’t sure if I took too long. My Mother-In-Law doesn’t like me so I would really hate to give her a reason to complain. Everything else about my wedding was handled well so I didn’t want to drop the ball here. But once his aunt also said something (his mom claimed her friends were also asking) I thought maybe I did do something wrong. And yes DH is to blame as well. His handwriting is terrible so I had to write them all out.
Post # 13
Traditional etiquette requires notes immediately, as gifts are received, but no more than two weeks. Miss Manners would have you writing them on the way to the honeymoon!
More liberal sources, for example the current Emily Post, give you up to three months, while allowing that the ideal is immediately. They suggest notes be done a few per day and mailed as they are completed. They are, of course, always better late than never. In practice most notes I receive are within a few months and nobody is offended.
To tell you the truth, the bigger faux pas is with the people who are calling you out.
Post # 14
Um yea agree with other pps the bigger faux pas here is them saying something, like really? And it’s super fucked up that they are members of his family and are asking why YOU didn’t send a note uhhh he’s an equal half in the marriage and in the wedding. I’m sorry your married life is starting out with Mother-In-Law like that….I wish your husband had said well mom we haven’t quite gotten to them yet and it’s half my fault too. I hate that people assume women will take on this role. He may be HER child but he is YOUR husband and has equal culpability for this. Ugh. 2 months is not a big deal and again agree with previous pp who asked why receiving a note is the only way they’re supposed to know you grateful? I’m betting you both thanked his mom in person already so…..sorry this is just so irritating on so many levels. Rant over and don’t stress about the cards bee!
Post # 15
Listen, I’m a stickler for etiquette and I care a lot about making sure people feel gratitude for gifts. Two months after a wedding is way too soon to be complaining you didn’t receive a thank you. The people who are complaining need a reality check.