- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
In the beginning, things were A-Okay, and I got along with her really well. She was a cancer, I was a cancer, I thought that meant that we were going to be super friends, right?
Now recently, my fiancee, his mother and I moved into a place. It wasn’t ideal, but since I’m trying to save up for a wedding, I knew that it was necessary for the break. But that is when everything went downhill.
I mean, the mother has TONS of junk. I mean, literally, junk. I looked through most of hte boxes and everything, and it was old papers, newspapers, ripped up toys from the dog and things like that. My fiancee was the one that was moving everything BY HIMSELF, because I had school every morning, and work every afternoon into the night, there was no time for me to help. So by the time that he was almost done, save for about twenty more boxes that were stored beneath their old house, he was DONE.
And He told his mother that all the rest of the stuff was junk and he didn’t want to move it, but she got really rude and said “How hard could it be, to move the boxes. It’s easy for you to say to throw things out, but I invested in these things.”
I mean, how rude is that? Your son, whom you are supposed to LOVE and care for, is hurting (I mean, hurting because he’s moving things day in and day out for two weeks) and you have that to say?
Anyway, Once everything was moved in, I decided to help unpack the kitchen things because it had been sitting there crowding the room for two weeks with no improvement. I thought I would be nice and put everything away. When she got home from work, she looked around and said “Oh thank you for helping” and I thought SCORE! But the next day when I got there EVERYTHING was out of the cupboards and back to the boxes, to my fiancee and I dismay.
Whenever I try to help, she criticizes it and makes me feel like nothing I am doing is right. It’s been like this for two whole years. My fiancee is telling me of all the things she used to do to him as a child (really horrible things like blaming him for losing all of her houses when he’s just a child and others things I hate to think about). But all he does is make excuses for her, and saying that he’s all she’s got.
What I want, now that you’ve read all of this ranting, is some advice. I want to move out after we get married, but my fiancee has got it in his mind that his mother needs our help and that she can’t make it on her own. Which obviously she can because she’s already doing everything herself.
I just need advice, I’m seriously regretting moving in there, and feel that if things don’t change, it’s going to effect my fiancee and I relationship.