(Closed) I feel unappreciated by my husband.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I kind of feel like maybe this is something that should have been covered before marriage. He likely expects you to do everything because you both went into the marriage allowing it or not addressing it. If you have been doing all of this for the better part of a year (your profile says married Dec. 2014), then he probably thinks that it’s the norm in the situation and that anything else done, like buying a video game and making cookies, would be the special thing. He probably doesn’t realize how much effort cleaning and cooking takes, and assumes that’s your normal day, like it’s been for a year, so why think it’s special? You should tell him it’s a lot of effort and work you do for him, and that it hurts your feelings when he overlooks how much work you do and only focuses on what other wives do for their husbands. I’m sorry, but if you went into the marriage making him think that your doing housework was a norm and not something above and beyond for him, he probably hasn’t even realized that you consider it a big deal.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have OCD. I’m not worried that you have OCD. Seriously nothing that you’ve said has indicated such. But I am worried that you have a man who undervalues you. Definitely talk to him and tell him everything that you just wrote. Good luck.

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