(Closed) I feel weird taking money from FI, is that normal?

posted 7 years ago in Money
Post # 4
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You’re not a freak.  I have been wondering this same thing.  Though our situations are a bit different, my Fiance and I do not yet live together and I have only recently realized that I need to get used to the idea of it being ‘our’ money.  I think it is probably an awkward transition that everyone goes through, since indepence is something that is so revered in society.  However, it’s not like you’re a gold digger or something.  I think after a while you’ll be more comfortable with it.  Not to worry.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

nope. im the same way. Darling Husband still yells at me when I make a comment saying I feel bad taking his money. He makes much more than I do so it’s inevitable. We just joined our checking accounts. It is something I definitely have to get used to. And you willl, too. You’re not alone!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

You are certainly not alone!  I feel really odd taking my husband’s money when he offers it.  I always like splitting things 50/50, but he makes a considerable amount more than me.  I am just really stubborn!  We don’t have joint checking yet, and I still pay for my own student loans, credit cards, half the rent, etc.  He did help me pay off a dentist bill last week though…and it bugged me so much that I told him I’d give him an extra $50 a month for our rent until I paid him back!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t know whether it’s normal or not, but I’m very much the same way. I make significantly, like a LOT, less money than Fiance, and while I’ve adjusted to things like him paying for meals out, the only thing I’ve ever actually taken money from him for was vet bills… which I still paid about a third of. Yeah, I really need to loosen up, but at the same time, he refers to his ex as having been a black hole for money, so I use that to justify my own hang-ups, probably!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think you have any reason to feel uncomfortable when you have a Fiance as understanding as yours sounds! Plus it seems like you guys have great communication. You’re not a freak, but I don’t think you need to make it into a bigger deal than it is 🙂 Enjoy it!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I USED to feel very awkward but I got over it REAL quick 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Since we’ve been together Darling Husband and I have both gotten laid off during different times of our relationship. It all comes full circle.

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