Post # 1
So, hubby and I have been ttc for 9 months now. I have managed to stay strong throughout this time, took every bfn and visit from af on the chin thinking, “well, I knew it would probabably take some time”.
Today I met a friend for brunch, she separated from her husband six months ago and got with another guy straight away and has just told me she is pregnant. Now, my best friend is currently pregnant as are 3 other couples we know well and 2 of my cousins. We also have two other sets of friends who have just had babies and I can honestly say that I’ve been nothing but happy for all of them.
I don’t know why this latest announcement has hit me so hard but it was like a blow to the gut. I had to use every ounce of self control not to break down crying. Obviously I am happy for my friend, she is excited and happy about the pregnancy but I can’t understand why I am so suddenly overcome with self pity. It’s not like me and I am angry with myself.
I guess I am hormonal too, I came home and realised my period has started (cue the next round of tears). I don’t get PMT or emotional around my time of the month but maybe it’s just finally the last straw. I’ve just realised that i have been with a different pregnant friend/family member every day for the past four days.
This is just so hard all of a sudden.
Thanks for listening bees, I just needed an outlet.
Post # 3
Sigh. Internet hugs. Im in the exact spot as you. 99% positive af will arrive in the next day or so will mark cycle 10. I wish I had words of wisdom but i too reached my low on this cycle. 🙁 Ive got an appt with my obgyn this week to start discussing testing. Maybe you should start considering the same?
Post # 4
I would have a bit of a melt down in your shoes too! We haven’t been trying nearly as long but it still makes me a bit crazy when other people announce a pregnancy. DHs best friend practically just has to look at his Girlfriend and she is KU, her and another one of our good friends are having babies like right now ( she is about to pop and thee other have birth on Friday) and my adorable (but oh so accidental) baby niece is visiting and that makes me even more frustrated because my SIL and her baby daddy are definitely struggling with parenting. It’s definitely enough to give you a case of the why not mes??
As @lovemygsp: maybe a trip to the dr is in order to save more unexplained disappointment? I plan on goin to the dr if we are not KU this cycle or I don’t see some significant improvement in my cycle pattern
Post # 5
@Indianinerniner: Hugs!! I know how you are feeling… 9 months ttc and nothing… currently 8 dpo but im losing hope for this cycle. Two sister-in laws are preggers as well as a good friend… its devasting! Ecspecially when you are doing everything right. I send my thoughts and love to you! My best coping strategy is planning things that i couldnt do pregnant, like a girls night with nonpreggers ladies and crazy hikes… Good luck and I hope you get your bfp soon!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2011 - Boy #1 12/2015, boy #2 02/2018
That must be so hard for you! I have no words of wisdom, but if there is anything we can do is give you our support. I know that there are a few threads that could be of some help/support for you such as 6+ months TTC I believe is the name. I am also part of the Charters of the Hive. You are welcome to join us and it really helps to get to know your body. Baby dust 🙂
Post # 7
Do you guys have room in th ebudget for a getaway or special trip? I feel like it might help to remember that even without a baby, your life can be fabulous and exciting :-). Hang in there!
Post # 8
@Sbee82: Oh man, both my SILs are pregnant too. I totally know how it goes. I was all stabby eyes when the one was like “ughhahggg (goofy’s noise) it just happened, I don’t even know how far along I am” when she told us and she can’t afford the two she has already.
Your post also reminded me that we haven’t been camping this season yet. LAME! Its been so cold and rainy though I haven’t even thought of it! I need to change that!
Post # 9
@crayfish: +1 And hey, the little trip might be just the thing to help you relax and make the baby 🙂
ETA- I was in this situation as well after trying for over a year, it sucks! *hugs to you* I hope the venting helps and I wish you lots of luck and baby dust!
Post # 10
I know how you feel! My husband and I have been trying for 13 months now (my cycles are so jacked up I have no clue which cycle I’m on). We’re finally seeing an RE. I know exactly how you feel, I know a couple ladies at my job, they both stepped out on their husbands and within the month were pregnant, one with b/g twins! It makes me feel like the world is really cruel, almost like wrongdoers are being rewarded. But you just have to keep in mind that its their time to have a LO, when it is your time, it will happen, be it via natural lovemaking, iui, ivf, or adoption. You will have a child when it happens, you just have to be patient. I know its much easier said than done though, I’m definitely still struggling with being an infertile girl in what seems to be a superflously fertile world!