Post # 1
And I kinda hate it…
I always considered myself very independent. I have my own career, hobbies, friends…etc. However, I find that since I got married, I always seem to be talking about “we”.
Anytime I’m chit-chatting with people like coworkers, clients or family and they ask me a question like “what are you doing this weekend,” “do you have any vacation planned,” “any renovations planned for the house”….etc. are always answered with what “we” are doing…etc.
I’m not sure if other people pick up on it, but it bugs me that “we” is the first word out of my mouth most of the time. Then again, answering with “I” is weird too, because I am not usually the only one doing those things…
I think I became especially aware of it because I was recently on a work trip with 3 other people who were all single, and everytime I said “we”, I became hyper aware of how much I talk about my husband….
Does anyone else notice this?
Post # 3
YES! althought I think a lot of women who are in relationships do, whether they are married or not. after we got engaged I had to make sure I said “our” wedding, and talk about what “we” were planning- because it certainly wasn’t just MY wedding or MY plans!
if it bugs you, and since you are now aware of it, trying to use “I” and speak for yourself more- when it makes sense. Really, you can’t help it if you have plans with your husband every weekend, most couples do.
if you are really concerned that you are losing your sense of independence though… there’s lots of great books out there.
Post # 4
The fact is married and single are quite different:)
Post # 5
I try not to say it because it bothers me. It bothers me when I ask my friends what they are doing and they saw WE. No, I didn’t ask what you both were doing, I asked what YOU were doing – sure you may be doing it together but do we always need to bring up SO????? Huge pet peeve.
Post # 6
I am saying it more often and I like it. Saying ‘I’ so much makes me feel self centered and self absorbed, so I actually find ‘we’ to be a very nice word
Post # 7
Yes, I notice it too… except it doesn’t bother me at all, in fact quite the opposite.
I love being able to say “we” and “my HUSBAND and I” (not boyfriend) all the time now.
We this, we that, it makes me smile!
Post # 8
I use “we” all the time when I mean “I” but it’s not just for us as a couple. I kept saying that “we” raised £207 for charity yesterday when “I” did all the work.