(Closed) I found a picture of a girl on his phone:( I dont know what to do! pick heavy.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

@sfigu16:  

All you can do is wait for an explanation. I have no idea why he would have a pic of a girl on his phone from tumblr or anywhere, but maybe he can explain it away. If I found this on SO’s phone, I would be suspicious and wonder what is going on. I would probably snoop through his facebook messages, email, texts etc to see if there is anything else suspicious or if I should give him the benefit of the doubt. I know Bees don’t generally agree with snooping but most women discover infidelity by snooping, so I think it’s a good idea if you have a reason to be suspicious.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

First of all, tumblr is a primarily image-based website with thousands upon thousands of posts every day… trying to find one picture of some random girl from an OLD phone seems like a needle in a haystack. So saying you can’t find it prominently on the site is kind of an obvious, lol.

Who knows why he saved it… I would be suspicious that it was sent to him by said girl, and I think you should have an honest sit down and talk about it.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Frankly, while it may not be the “right” thing to do, I would be snooping more and making my own conclusions about what was going on before I confronted him. I think it’s naive to confront someone with the first piece of evidence you find, you need to do your homework and get the big picture.

He knows you’re onto him. His response, as you describe it, is a total cover that doesn’t even make sense.

Stop trusting him with all your heart. Trust, but verify. Do your research and use your brain. Time to put logic first. Better to find out now than deal with this again 2, 5, 10, 20 years down the road.

It may be nothing. It may be something (my gut says it is something, to be frank). But you can only find out through research and unbiased info. He probably locking all his stuff down now – changing passwords, deleting things, etc. Get on it.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If you go to Google, then click on Images at the top, then the little ‘camera’ icon in the search box, you can actually put in the image URL and yes, it goes to a tumblr site. 

So at least that part of his story checks out. Just ask him about it. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

She’s a model. Her name is Brittany Dailey. She posted her photo on Instagram back in August

All black everything

A post shared by Brittany Dailey (@_brittanydailey) on

And the first place I saw the photo using google image search was tumblr.

 

Edit – Here’s the tumblr that came up when I google image searched it:

http://mystaffandinterestingthings.tumblr.com/post/39993959231/davidxtgod-brittany-dailey

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How old is this phone? If it was 3 or 4 years ago, when you guys were in high school, and this is only a girl he found online (not someone he’s met in real life), I don’t think it’s a big deal. If he actually had something going on with this girl (sexting or meeting up in person) while you were dating, then I’d be upset and felt I should have known about it. His reaction makes it seem like it was nothing.

I think I’d tell him that you just want some more context around the situation, and you’re ready to let it go (assuming that he wasn’t having a relationship with that person).

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh my gosh, sorry! 🙁 It looks like a suggestive picture..I think you need to demand honesty from him – good luck x

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’d wait to hear his explanation of how it got there before freaking out.  Sometimes I save random pics from the internet to my phone for some random purpose (I like someone’s dress, a cute dog, something to show a friend, etc).  If it was on tumblr, ask him to show it to you.

Maybe he saw the pic and it was some old straight-laced girl who went all hard-core and he thought it was funny? Maybe he thinks it’s freaky-looking?  Maybe she’s in an ad for some product he likes?  I can think of 100s of non-cheating reasons he’d have a pic on his phone.  After 6 years, I think your partner has earned the benefit of the doubt!

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 

@sfigu16:  Yes. See @PaisleyMedic‘s post. She explains and posts the link… 

 

A little word of wisdom: If you look for something, you will find something. Don’t let it go to your head. Sometimes, guys do stupid things and do things that just look wrong.  You found something and now you’re making up your own story. Just ask him.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just saw a PP say that the woman is a model… I think that’s fine. I definitely have pics of male actors on my phone!! 🙂  I really don’t think that’s enough to freak out over!

ETA: This woman has over 50,000 followers on instagram and 75,000 on twitter, I’m guessing most of them guys.  I HIGHLY doubt your boyfriend is having an affair with her!

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