I found a ring box…but didn’t open it

posted 3 months ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I can’t believe you didn’t open it, good for you. I snooped and found my ring, I regret doing it and wish I would have had the will power to at least not open the box. 

Is there a gift giving occasion coming up (birthday, anniversary, etc)? If so, I would guess maybe it could be earrings but if not I would assume a ring. Especially since you’ve talked about getting engaged and you’ve shown him what you want. 

My ring is not from Zales, but I know a couple of women who have rings from Zales and I believe both are very satisfied and haven’t had any issues with diamonds getting loose or anything. 

I’ve seen a lot of different opinions on the bee regarding what to do when you get a ring that you dislike. If it were me, I would probably say something after the proposal, like a day or so after so you don’t completely kill the mood. A friend of mine proposed with this terrible ring and the girl asked to go exchange it and he was totally cool with it. Ended up getting something completely different and much more expensive… This guy is pretty laid back though and they’d never discussed rings so he wasn’t hurt that she didn’t like it, only you can guess how your boyfriend would feel in this scenaro.

Also, you’ve only been together for a year so if the proprosal doesn’t come on this vacation try not to get too stressed out.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

GIRRRLLL… you are way over thinking this (Username checks out! LOL)

I think you need to take a deep breath. its been a year… it could be anything. And if youre concerned about the ring when you do get it, you can deal with it then (a day later as suggested) and if hes really the dream man you say he is – you two can work together to sort it out.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

skilledoveranalyzer :  this is my personal experience zales is the worst!!!!! I would not recommend them at all. My E ring was from zales and i returned it within the 90 day period because it was so flawed and my husband spent wayy over the necessary amount for a ring that was no where near worth it…  needless to say we returned it and got a ring for half of what he paid for it and for 10x better quality.. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

skilledoveranalyzer :  Unfortunately I have no tips on self restraint, I was wearing my e ring around the house whenever my then boyfriend was out. It was a pretty shitty thing to do, so actually I guess my advice is: Don’t do it, you’ll feel like shit after the fact, your boyfriend wants it to be a surprise so dont ruin it for either of you! (Wish someone would have told me this lol)

If you’re disapointed, I would just try and hide it. You don’t have to gush over the ring, focus on talking about your engagement and how excited you are about moving forward in your relationship, potential wedding plans, etc. Then later break it to him about the ring if you really hate it. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

I have sorta been snooping through the house (I know the ring is in here somewhere!) but even if I found the box I don’t think I’d open it. I’m not sure what I’m trying to achieve by looking for it. 

Have you guys discussed a timeline or anything? If it’s an ugly or cheap ring do you think you’d be ableto bring it up delicately ever or just suffer in silence?

Post # 8
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Newbee

skilledoveranalyzer :  Wow! The fact that you didn’t look is super impressive. With my ex I ended up looking and regretted it. Don’t look!!!

Now, Zales isn’t Tiffany’s but I don’t think it’s bad quality. Just make sure you get ring insurance or a warranty (which you should probably do regardless of where he bought it). Everything will work out! Congratulations on your upcoming engagement 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

First off, kudos for not opening that box. 

Secondly, my only concern would be if he waits too long the return/exchange period might come and go and then what? But it’s not like you can come out and say that because then he’ll know you peeked! 

Ahhh!!!! Forget you saw it and try not to dwell on it. Easier said than done though, right? 

Please update as things progress! Lol

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2006

skilledoveranalyzer :  Good job, you! Way to be positive! And seriously, not looking takes some serious willpower. It’ll pay off, I promise!!!

You cannot fake surprise, so be thankful you didn’t spoil it. 😊

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