- 4 weeks ago
Let’s get this out of the way: I’m a bad girl and I went snooping; and I found a ring box.
I didn’t open it because 1) I don’t want to ruin a possible surprise and 2) I’m already worried I won’t like it.
Short backstory: My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year; we live together; we’ve talked about getting engaged; I’ve shown him pictures of the kinds of rings I like (and discussed in detail what I like and don’t like).
A proposal has got to be coming soon, possibly even on our vacation next month. I’m not really even worried about whether or not he’ll propose (like I was a few months ago). Of course, now that I’ve seen a box, I’m less worried, though little dark thoughts are popping into my head like, ‘what if it’s just earrings?’
But my biggest concern is that I won’t like it. I have no reason to believe that he didn’t take my preferences under consideration with the style of the ring (because I already know he was asking around about my preferred style) but he’s bought me things before that he thinks I like, but I don’t maybe due to misinterpretation? Idk.
Also, the box is from Zales. He’s bought me jewelry online from there before, and spent what seems like the least amount he could get away with for important days like Valentines and our anniversary.
—Don’t get me wrong, I don’t care about the price tag, but these items reflected a cheap price ie. stones falling out, etc. And I’ve been a little hurt because he’ll spend way more on others’ gifts and even seems to put more thought into theirs than me.—
I did mention my concerns about the quality of Zales and suggested he might not be getting the best deal, and maybe rethink future purchases with them. (My wording was very delicate on this—I wasn’t acting bratty btw) So, to see the Zales box was just a little disappointing.
He is a wonderful man; he’s my best friend in the entire world, and he treats me the way we all dream of being treated.
To sum all this up:
a—I’m dying to open the box to make sure it’s not earrings (talk me out of it!!)
b—I’m afraid he didn’t get a ring I’ll like
c—I’m concerned it’s poor quality and cheaped-out (PS…he can easily afford a ring I want esp since I said it doesn’t need to be a diamond)
Just to clarify, so I don’t come across as a whiny entitled brat, I only care about these things because I don’t want to feel like he doesn’t value me enough to buy me something nice and/or put little consideration into getting a ring that I would really love.
I’m curious what everyone’s thoughts are on this. Am I just freaking out? What do I do if I don’t like the ring when he proposes? I don’t have a good poker face, and try as I might, my true feelings always burst out eventually.
And has anyone else gotten an engagement ring from Zales before?