- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
OMG! I’m so terrible. Last night, I found the ring box. And I know he has 3 decoy boxes hidden somewhere, which I haven’t even found, but I KNEW this one was THE box, because it was lavender with a ribbon around it (way too fancy for a decoy).
My boyfriend is the only person who knows that I was that sneaky kid who peeked at her Christmas gifts, and could seal them up so no one would know. So he felt like he needed to be super sneaky about hiding my engagement ring. The only reason he told me he already had the ring was because I was stressing over finaces and if we could even afford the kind of yellow sapphire engagement ring I wanted (that was 2 weeks ago). After the first day he told me…I did look around for it, but I honestly stopped looking for it, because I wanted to be surprised.
I got home last night at 11pm, and it was around midnight when I saw the ring box (and my bf doesn’t come home until 2am). So after pacing back and forth, I opened it! It was my engagement ring. It wasn’t my favorite setting, but it was one of my top 3, so I was excited. Then I immediately regret opening it!
So today, I actually started searching the WeddingBee forums to see what other woman have done in this situation, and it was killing me. I could pretend I never saw it, and just act surprise (like I’ve done some Christmases ago when I used to peek at my presents). But I would feel terrible.
Today, I texted him from work asking if I knew something about the proposal would he be upset. He said he would just change whatever I knew about. And I told him that he couldn’t change it, and that I found the ring box. And he said that he was going to go exchange the ring!
I FELT TERRIBLE!!! I called him right away so we could stop texting, and I was starting to cry. He said seeing my face when he first showed me the ring was a huge part of the proposal. He seemed really upset at first, but I was clearly more torn up about it then he was. It’s so hard to surprise me, and I just ruined one of the biggest surprises.
He then started to ask me if I liked it. I told him, I thought it was pretty, and I would have to get used to it (like I had to get used to the promise ring he bought me, which wasn’t my style at first, but I absolutely love the ring now), but I would love any ring that he gave me.
Surprisingly, he was more upset with himself, because that day I found it, he moved it from the original hiding place (actually inside his computer…like he had to unscrew panels just to get to the box), and he shouldn’t have moved it. But I was coming out of the shower, and he hid it behind the desk in a panic so I wouldn’t see him with the box when I came out of the bathroom.
He wasn’t mad at me though, he said he knew if I found it, I’d open it. He actually has a back up ring! There were two settings the same price that he was thinking about. So he said he would go to the store and exchange it for the other setting he was thinking about getting.
And sure enough before he left for work today he went to the jewelry store to have them put the center stone in the other setting (I hate that he knows me so well that he even NEEDED to have a back-up ring). Their person who takes care of that is on vacation so it’ll be 2-3 weeks before they can get it done. But, I promise to never again open any presents early, because I never want to feel this terrible or guilty again.
The woman at the jewelry store was so surprised that he wasn’t more upset about the ring (he told her the whole story). She said some men have actually returned the ring, or would just be visibly upset that they have to get a whole new ring. He did ask me if I liked the color of the center stone, because the new ring would have the same center stone.
He was glad I was honest with him (even though he was VERY upset), he thinks it’ll be a funny story to tell our kids someday. What an awful girlfriend I am! But he said it was in my nature to see what was in the box, it’s part of my personality, and he doesn’t love me any less. His birthday is next month…I have to get him something extra special now, for being such a good sport about the whole thing. I’m glad I was honest with him though. This experience has completely ruined me for opening presents early though.