(Closed) I found out after the wedding…

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Would you confront her?
    Yes : (35 votes)
    26 %
    No, not worth it. : (90 votes)
    68 %
    Other : (8 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    2394 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Kinda depends on the nature of the cussing and whether it was in any way provoked.

    Post # 5
    2237 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    More details would help…which inlaw? What was it about? Etc…

    Post # 6
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I wouldn’t. She was drunk. People can be jerks. No point in bringing it up. She probably already feels like an ass.

    Post # 8
    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @DanielleZara: At least it wasn’t you who she cussed out. And there are always two sides to the story. Your brother may have considered it a cuss out when all she could have said was “You are a jerk for not showing up!” or it could have been a full blown cuss out, but those usually cause scenes and if you didn’t notice a very drunk person cussing out your brother, then it probably wasn’t that bad. ^_^

    Post # 9
    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I wouldn’t. I don’t think her being drunk is any excuse for poor behavior, but I also don’t think it would be worth confronting her on this. If your brother is angry, he can always let her know, otherwise I think it would be overstepping to do it yourself.

    Post # 12
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think if you want to continue the drama then go ahead and confront her but it doesn’t seem worth the effort.  Drunk or not she sounds some what childish and dramatic.  Why even bother dealing with someone like that? 

    Post # 14
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I don’t think its appropriate for you to “confront” her but maybe next time your husband and the Bridesmaid or Best Man are hanging (without you and BM’s wife), he could mention it in an almost-joking way, like wow, your wife was a little tipsy when she said ____ to ____’s brother…

    That would gauge her feelings after the fact.

    More than likely, I’m sure she’s embarrassed about her actions and probably doesn’t realize how strongly she came across. It’s no excuse for her behavior but you can’t change that now.

    Post # 15
    7494 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I agree with what pinkpinstripes said!

    Post # 16
    1020 posts
    Bumble bee

    i’m a very straight-forward person and i’d confront her if i were you. however, i wouldn’t do it in a harsh way or anything since i didn’t know how the conversation went. but i’d probably talk to her jokingly, something like: “i heard you curse at xxx during my wedding reception, ahahhaha.”…… LOL.

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