(Closed) I found out my boyfriend’s going to propose…

posted 12 years ago in Waiting
Post # 47
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

congrats on your soon to be engagement!!!  my fi surprised me and i knew it was coming sometime… but not so soon!!! we were out looking at engagement rings and i was not feeling well… anyways i ended up puking my guts out in the mall bathroom and asking fi if we could go home and sorry for ruining the experience lol! little did i know that when i was in the bathroom he just bought the ring!!! soooo im home sick for 3 days… and he could barely keep it a secret…. everyone knew but me!!! haha… anyways so we went to dinner a few days later n he popped the question! 🙂

Post # 48
1 posts

I recently found out that my boyfriend is planning on proposing too. We have been talking about getting engaged since the beginning of our relationship, but it’s always been a “some day in the future when we’re married” kind of deal. We’re both graduating from college in 1 month, and I had thought he was planning something, but one day he was really secretive and started calling my best friend/room mate a lot. She slipped up and told me that he was planning on proposing before the end of the year, a few weeks later she slipped and said it would be after Christmas.

I was devastated to have found out, but then got really excited. Then I saw a text on my BFs phone saying “She knows about the proposal, what do I do?”… now I’m really upset! I really don’t want to ruin this for him. I feel so bad, but i am thrilled to be finally getting engaged, and marrying the love of my life. I hope things work out the same for you! It’s a little disappointing, but I’d rather know and be able to get all dressed up and be prepared for it, plus the ring will still be a total surprise, and it’s still the most important moment of your lives together so far.

Post # 49
1066 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I haven’t read all the responses yet, but yes, I did find out that it was going to happen, BUT Fiance did an amazing job of catching me offguard!  He didnt know that I knew of course, but I knew even what day it was going to happen, but he did it first thing in the morning when I really wasn’t expecting it… so no matter what, you’re going to be shocked because you dont know HOW he’s going to do it!  🙂

Post # 50
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

^^ OP posted this two tears ago.


and.. Too Much Information much!

Post # 52
9 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wish I hadn’t found out that it’s coming the way that I did.  It unfortunately came up in an argument between my boyfriend and me.  It was over something really, stupid, too, and we both escalated it unnecessarily.  It’s all fixed now, fixed relatively quickly (we really don’t fight frequently at all and are quite thrilled with one another constantly).  But unfortunately, to be mean to me, he told me that he had bought a ring, was waiting for the right time to give it to me, and that now he wasn’t going to do it.  After we fixed ourselves up that same night, I spent the next day feeling really, really sad.  I shouldn’t have escalated it that far, and then his temper let the surprise slip.  We both really regret the stupid argument, and now he feels like he really screwed up.

Though, to be fair, I mean, it isn’t like he and I haven’t talked about engagement and marriage and potential children.  He’s asked me before about what kinds of jewelry (engangement type, even) I would like, so it’s not like I didn’t think we’d ever get there.  Though, we’ve been talking about it for so long that I was starting to wonder if he was getting cold feet, if I was doing something wrong… because everything we talked about seemed so nice, but I didn’t really want to be talking about it if it wasn’t really going to happen, which is what it was beginning to feel like.  Then he goes and he tells me he actually HAS given it thought, that he HAS bought a ring, and it had to come up in a really mean, painful way.

At the very least, he has eased at least one worry.  I asked him, “What if I just can’t see myself wearing that ring now, now that I know?”  And he said, “I’m sorry.  I hope you don’t really think that.  Because, despite the fact that you know I have it, it’s still me who chooses when to give it to you.”  So, in that sense, he’s right.  I really don’t know anything about it.  I don’t know what it looks like, and I don’t know when it will happen.  And despite our spat, I can’t imagine being without him. I love him so much and have for the first time in my life (prior to the discovery of the fact that a ring exists, even) started imagining my future with another person and wondering and contemplating how a proposal might happen.  And I’m positive that when it does happen I will be overwhelmed and happy.

Post # 52
1 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

I also knew about my upcoming proposal through a stupid argument.


Since 3 or 4 months ago, one evening suddenly my bf texted my and asked me a picture of my sis in law’s engagement ring. I was like “wth why dont u ask her by yourself, it was on her instagram for goodness sake” but I soon forget it and even joke around him about it.


Then a few days ago, I was facetime-ing with him when his mom suddenly opened the door to his room and ask “where is the picture of ring you wanna bought for xxx (my name)”. We laugh awkwardly towards that conversation and did not discuss it further.


The next day, when he picked me up from work, his mom called him again to confirm my ring size… she definitely always choose the wrong time….


Then my bf ended the phone and ask my “are you sure about your ring size that you told me months ago? it was so much bigger than my mom, you are thinner than her”


Blame it on hormones, I exploded… I know it was stupid, especially after reading other stories in here, but I was really dissapointed at that time. He asked the exact design to me instead of my brother / sister in law. He even reasoned on his laziness to open instagram (he did not use social media too much) so he asked me to open it for him. Then added the ring size question (he already knew I have the same ring size as my sister in law). I blame him for ruining my once in a lifetime moment, for ruining the surprise that wont be a surprise anymore for me.


After heated and stupid arguments, both of us apologized. Now I know it is going to happen, and it will happen SOON (again, his mom talked to his aunt about him wanting to propose to me WHEN I WAS VISITING THEIR HOUSE -____-). My bf (or soon to be fiance) now forbid me to even touch his phone, saying all his secrets are there, and I obviously know what kind of secret that would be.


But forgeting the stupid arguments, now that I know I’m about to embark a new journey with him, about to have a new adventure with the one I really love, and about to spend the rest of my life with him, I AM EXCITED! I can’t say that the surprise engagement has been ruined, because honestly I only know the general design of the ring and general timeframe when he gonna asked the question.


I don’t know the exact time when, and obviously the how. Right now I’m on a 2 week business trips, and somehow I have a feeling he gonna go to my house while I’m away to ask my parents… We’ll see what happens next, and I am sure whatever it is, its gonna be special. Whatever the way he ask me, or no matter how much I have already known beforehand, what makes it special is that IT IS HIM who ask me, and IT IS HIM I’m gonna spend the rest of my life with <3

Post # 52
8989 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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whitelily:  Its really great that you are excited but this thread is 7 years old!

Post # 53
179 posts
Blushing bee

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MsBeer:  +1

Seriously, this goes back to 2009! Lol

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