Post # 1
I need help. Last July I bought a beautiful dress online in a flash sale – it was a Vera Wang Mikado wedding dress. I got a super great deal on it at the time as they stopped production of the dress. When I got it I wasn’t overwhelmed with it but it was cheap and already bought – so I decided to stick with it. Also, it is strapless, and at the time we were planning a destination wedding for this November (which fell apart leading us to move the wedding back to our home state of Missouri early this year). For those of you who do not know, Missouri in late November is COLD (most of the time). The Mikado is certainly a summer wedding dress.
Today, I am surfing Etsy and find THE DRESS. It is so beautiful. I just can’t stop thinking about it. It has longer sleeves and much more intricate beading, and best of all it won’t change the overall color scheme of the wedding (which I have already told the bridal party about). It’s not expensive – well under what the original budget was.
I am thinking about purchasing THE DRESS and selling the Mikado. Is this a stupid move? Should I just live with my mistake? While I do feel beautiful in it, I just don’t feel like it was “the one”. Part of me is nervous about buying this other dress online with my experience with the other… but you can’t beat the craftsmanship and the price. In my mind I am trying to rationalize it after all, it’s not really like could have contacted David’s bridal and gotten up close pictures and made it specifically to my liking.
What do you all think? Neither option will break the bank either, I feel that is worth mentioning.
Post # 2
Not a stupid move at all!! As long as you can sell the other one, I say go buy your dream dress!
That being said, I came to this thread looking for a picture of a pretty dress and you didn’t post one haha! Show us your dream dress!
Post # 4
Buy the dream dress. Do you want to look back on your wedding and think, “well, the dress wasn’t great, but it was cheap and I have to live with my mistakes”? As long as you are not wildly overspending, chalk it up to experience and wear what you love.
Post # 5
It sounds like you really want the new dress from Etsy and I say do it! You said neither are breaking the budget and hopefully the new dress will make you feel so beautiful on your special day. You can try to sell the first one and if you do, then great.
Post # 6
stlkennedy92 : Depends on your budget. If you can afford “the dress,” get it!
Post # 7
stlkennedy92 : cautionary tale: I bought a dress from Etsy, and although it was what I ordered (no defects or anything) and I had thought it was perfect, when I actually put it on I was really underwhelmed.
I had seen this dress before I went dress shopping and was sort of keeping it in mind, but wanted to go wedding dress shopping so I would have that experience with our moms (I am my mom’s only daughter and my fiance is an only child) and to make sure I tried on shapes/styles other than what I already had in mind. I ended up loving the last one I tried on, but didn’t buy it, and ordered the one I had seen on Etsy which was a style I really liked and had done sone slight customizing for me. But once I tried it on, it didn’t have the feel of that one I did try on before and loved, which was the Essence of Australia D1702 (bought off Tradesy), which I would have originally thought would be too princessy (but I love how it fits and looks (and it’s not as pinkish as in the designer pictures)).
So now I’m trying to sell the etsy one, but there’s no way I’m going to get back what I spent on it, even though it’s brand new and in perfect condition.
Post # 9
If you can sell the old one, then do it! You need to love your dress, not wear it just to “live with your mistake”.
I’m an STL girl too, and that dress is beautiful, but girl…those sleeves are not going to be any warmer than a strapless dress would be!
Post # 10
I don’t think it’s stupid. Your whole wedding has changed, and it makes sense for your attire to reflect that if you want and can afford it. The dress is amazing, especially for a cooler weather wedding!
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2017 - Valleybrook Country Club
Do what you feel is right for you. If it’s THE DRESS, then get it, but I strongly suggest you stop looking at dresses after this. good luck 🙂
Post # 12
I’d say buy your dream dress. You only get to wear it once!
Also had to mention i’m from Missouri as well. Not StL though.. about an hour and a half south. Close enough though, right?