(Closed) I found the ring and feel a bit let down

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I also say wait it out. I told my Fiance that I wanted to choose the ring and that he could propose without any ring OR if he felt strongly about having a ring for the proposal to just buy an inexpensive “stand in”.

He did do that but totally surprised me by buying a high quality white gold band with a small saphire. He said that he still wanted to give me something of good quality and value that I could keep for life and would WANT to wear on occasion rather then some trifle that would break or be discarded to the back of a drawer. 

This is a man who is very responsible with his money and doesn’t “splash out”. If your man is the type that usually considers your feelings, then this ring is probably the stand in. Either way, even if it is the e-ring, WHEN he proposes just lay out your concerns nicely and move forward from there.

When you two have the discussion that you want to pick out your own ring, is he usually supportive and understanding of that or does he vocalize wanting to be the one to pick it for you?

Post # 32
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Helper bee

Could it be an heirloom ring that was given to him for the purposes of a stand-in? Maybe an original ring from mom before her upgrade? You never know.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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Ms.PatientBee:  That would be even worse, heirlooms are supposed to be valuable, why bother passing down .15ct of diamond haha I would be like ummm no thank you. That would mean he didnt even shell out the couple hundred OP is thinking he spent…

Post # 34
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Helper bee

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ktsteimel:  I was thinking it could be a stand-in that the family already owned. That way they could pick a new ring out together post-proposal but he would still have a ring to propose with. 

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