posted 2 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: Should I tell him or just act surprised?
    Tell him : (12 votes)
    26 %
    Act surprised : (34 votes)
    74 %
  • Post # 2
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2019

    You know him better than we do but there are lots of stories on this site about bees finding their ring, telling him they found it and the groom being disappointed. I don’t think I’d say anything. 

    Post # 3
    5882 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I’m constantly amazed by the number of Bees who ‘accidentally’ find their engagement rings,  I can’t even find a pair of scissors when I need them. surprised

    Post # 4
    1247 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    Why can’t you do both?  When he proposes, tell him you thought you saw it in the closet but had no idea he was going to propose anytime soon. 

    Post # 6
    9 posts
    • Wedding: August 2017

    I just asked my fiance, what he would want in this situation, because I don’t know what I would do either; he said tell him, unless you can totally pull it off. He feels that if there’s something amiss in your reaction, he might think there’s something wrong with the ring, or the proposal, and feel like he didn’t make that moment special enough or right for you.


    Post # 7
    1199 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    You will likely be emotional and touched so can probably get away without saying anything. DO NOT TELL HIM. Cover your mouth or something. Don’t spoil his fun

    Post # 8
    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    Hmmm…you accidentally found it, but I am guessing you didn’t accidentally open the box, uless it was just chilling out without a case of some sort. 

    I agree that you know him better than we do, and should do whatever would best work for him.

    Post # 8
    9735 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I would just act surprised. You will still be surprised by the timing of it and the actual proposal and all the emotions of the moment will make it so you aren’t doing much acting anyway.

    Post # 10
    5882 posts
    Bee Keeper

    arosebyanyothername :  lol or my sister who ‘accidentally’ found – and read!- my diary back when we were in high school, claiming she was in my bedroom because she wanted to borrow a pair of my earrings (diary was between the mattresses of my bed) undecided

    Post # 13
    1846 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I would tell him, because I want complete openness and honesty in my relationship.

    But because how transporting it worked, I actually had my ring before my fiancé did (someone gave it to me to pass on to him. I didn’t look though, it was a wrapped parcel!) so my view is probably not the average…

    Post # 14
    51 posts
    Worker bee

    I wouldn’t tell him and leave him have his surprise moment. My worry is if you tell him and he is a bit secretly disappointed and then delays your original engagement proposal. He may already have a sweet proposal idea or specal date in mind and wants you to be surprised. You did mention an anniversary and I’m glad you LOVE the ring x

    Post # 15
    178 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would tell him.

    Imagine you’re not telling him, but secretly wait the whole anniversary day for that special moment but it doesn’t come, because he has other plans, for example he wants to wait until christmas for some reason. Maybe he just thinks the moment isn’t right and spontaneously decides to wait to make it extra special. That poor guy wouldn’t even know that he’d probably upset you with that. 

    I don’t know your boyfriend, but mine would be 100 % capable of hiding an e-ring for months, just because he imagined some special moment that had yet to come. 

    My sister’s husband planned on proposing at new year’s eve, didn’t have the guts and waited another month before he tried again. 


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