Post # 1
So, long story short I was cleaning out our bedroom closet last night and I found my ring! I had a small inclination that he was going to pop the question sometime soon as we’ve both been dropping hints lately and our two year anniversary is saturday. My issue is, I SUCK at acting surprised. I’m wondering if I should just tell him I found it or act surprised as best as I can. I know he won’t be upset if I told him I found it but it’s more that I’d feel like that entire atmosphere will be different when he actually decides to do it.
On a side note, I LOVE THE RING! It is exactly what I wanted, not sure how many carats but it looks to be about .25CT (which is what I asked for), so that we could upgrade every few years. Beautiful white gold, clustered halo around the center cut, I’m literally in love.
Post # 2
You know him better than we do but there are lots of stories on this site about bees finding their ring, telling him they found it and the groom being disappointed. I don’t think I’d say anything.
Post # 3
I’m constantly amazed by the number of Bees who ‘accidentally’ find their engagement rings, I can’t even find a pair of scissors when I need them.
Post # 4
Why can’t you do both? When he proposes, tell him you thought you saw it in the closet but had no idea he was going to propose anytime soon.
Post # 5
RobbieAndJuliahaha : Right–like the bee who went thru one dozen pair of her guy’s socks until she “accidently” found hers!
Post # 6
I just asked my fiance, what he would want in this situation, because I don’t know what I would do either; he said tell him, unless you can totally pull it off. He feels that if there’s something amiss in your reaction, he might think there’s something wrong with the ring, or the proposal, and feel like he didn’t make that moment special enough or right for you.
Post # 7
You will likely be emotional and touched so can probably get away without saying anything. DO NOT TELL HIM. Cover your mouth or something. Don’t spoil his fun
Post # 8
Hmmm…you accidentally found it, but I am guessing you didn’t accidentally open the box, uless it was just chilling out without a case of some sort.
I agree that you know him better than we do, and should do whatever would best work for him.
Post # 8
I would just act surprised. You will still be surprised by the timing of it and the actual proposal and all the emotions of the moment will make it so you aren’t doing much acting anyway.
Post # 10
arosebyanyothername : lol or my sister who ‘accidentally’ found – and read!- my diary back when we were in high school, claiming she was in my bedroom because she wanted to borrow a pair of my earrings (diary was between the mattresses of my bed)
Post # 11
RobbieAndJuliahaha : ahaahaha!!! oh my goodness thats so funny! yeah he sucks at finding things so I’m not completely shocked that he sucks at hiding things too!
Post # 12
pnwlove : If you knew me, you’d know how much of a control freak I am. Natural curiosity, I think would drive anyone to see what was in the case. I wasn’t sure if it was an heirloom of his that he dropped in there by accident but I opened it to see if it was important because I wouldn’t want something like that lying around.
Post # 13
I would tell him, because I want complete openness and honesty in my relationship.
But because how transporting it worked, I actually had my ring before my fiancé did (someone gave it to me to pass on to him. I didn’t look though, it was a wrapped parcel!) so my view is probably not the average…
Post # 14
I wouldn’t tell him and leave him have his surprise moment. My worry is if you tell him and he is a bit secretly disappointed and then delays your original engagement proposal. He may already have a sweet proposal idea or specal date in mind and wants you to be surprised. You did mention an anniversary and I’m glad you LOVE the ring x
Post # 15
I would tell him.
Imagine you’re not telling him, but secretly wait the whole anniversary day for that special moment but it doesn’t come, because he has other plans, for example he wants to wait until christmas for some reason. Maybe he just thinks the moment isn’t right and spontaneously decides to wait to make it extra special. That poor guy wouldn’t even know that he’d probably upset you with that.
I don’t know your boyfriend, but mine would be 100 % capable of hiding an e-ring for months, just because he imagined some special moment that had yet to come.
My sister’s husband planned on proposing at new year’s eve, didn’t have the guts and waited another month before he tried again.