I found the ring – do i keep it a secret?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do I tell him i found it?
    Yes : (52 votes)
    27 %
    No : (131 votes)
    68 %
    Maybe.. : (11 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    KEEP IT TO YOURSELF – or if you MUST tell someone tell one of your close friends and swear them to secrecy. honestly dont ruin his surprise for you πŸ™‚

    Post # 4
    1897 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Oh, I’m with Spaganya!  Mum is the word!   Do you have any special events coming up?  A birthday?  Anniversary? 

    Post # 5
    2054 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I say keep it to yourself…i know its tough but he may get upset when he finds out he wont be able to surprise you.  Is it worrying you that he has had if for that long and still hasnt given it to you?


    Post # 7
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I’ve read posts from bees who have been in this situation and told their boyfriend, only to regret it when he was disappointed about his surprise. I say keep it to yourself, even though I know if must be near impossible! If you’ve made it 2 months already, you can do it!

    Post # 8
    674 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    SHHHH!!! He would be so sad if he realized the surprise was spoiled.

    I know it’s frustrating that you found it BUT you still have no idea how he’ll do it. πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

    Post # 9
    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Keep it to yourself for sure. 

    My Fiance tried so hard to keep it a secret, so far as ditching the jewelery bag in the trunk of his car, so he could sneak the ring into the house.  However, he forgot it was there… and a week later his lease expired, and I was helping him clean out the car to return it and I stumbled across the bag and I knew, and this panicked look crossed his face.  So I was just like… seriously, didn’t you get that necklace for me like a year ago?  Haven’t you ever heard of a trash can?

    And he was just like… yeah, I’m a slob, and we pretended I didn’t know anything for the next two weeks when the ring made it’s appearance.


    Post # 10
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Definitely keep it to yourself for now! He’s probably waiting for just the right moment/occasion. That, or he’s (consciously or subconsciously) hoping you’ll find it, so he can avoid the pressure build-up of having to ask you! Either way, I’d keep it quiet. 

    Another question, though, is… Will you tell him that you already got a sneak-peek after he proposes? Or will you take the secret to the grave? πŸ˜‰

    Post # 11
    525 posts
    Busy bee

    Oh no please ignore one of the ‘Yes’ votes above and convert it to a ‘No’ vote… I thought the poll was in answer to your title question: ‘should I keep it a secret?’ so I voted ‘Yes’ but then I saw that the poll is actually asking if you should tell him or not…. I really don’t think you should

    Post # 12
    1075 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013



    LOL..I love how quick you were to say that!




    Def keep it a secret.  If it were me, I probably wouldn’t even tell any of my closest friends either.  If my SO heard that I found the e-ring I think he would be really devastated, and even worse, prolong the proposal even LONGER!



    Post # 13
    7082 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    Do NOT tell!

    Post # 14
    2408 posts
    Buzzing bee

    i totally would not tell. hopefully you spilling the beans here will help you keep quiet. i’m sure he would be really bummed that you found it early

    Post # 15
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    NOOOO!!  Keep it a secret!  Let it be a surpise!!! I am totally with Wendy-I think guys take it very seriously when they get a ring to purpose!  I think he would be sad he didn’t get to ask you!


    Just wondering..where was it that you found it.?.you weren’t looking for it were you?! πŸ™‚

    Post # 16
    431 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    definitely keep it a secret!!

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