Post # 1
My RSVP cards say they are also able to respond on our wedding website. Since it’s a Destination Wedding wedding, many people have already responded on our site early, so I suspect that most people will RSVP on the site…but who knows. Should I still be including a self addressed envelope AND stamp in all the invitations, even if I think most will respond on the site?
Post # 3
Guests always have the option to respond how they please.
If they are adherents to formal etiquette, they will respond in the same manner as the invitation was extended — in this case, by mail. But if they are adherents to formal etiquette, they will do so on their own personal social stationery using their own envelope and stamp.
Of course when you yourself are following formal etiquette, you do not include an R.s.v.p. card implying that your guests do not own their own stationery, or implying that you consider yourself entitled to issue official paperwork for them to fill out; at most you simply include the reply information in small print on the lower right-hand-corner of the invitation. But nowadays so many enclosure cards are included in invitations that one unnecessary “R.s.v.p. card” is inconsequential.
So, while best case would have been to forego the waste of the extra card as well as foregoing the envelope and stamp, you are certainly within the bounds of proper formal etiquette by foregoing the latter two.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t. I bet the majority will do it online so a stamp would just be a waste.
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
I would include a stamp for older relatives who might not want to RSVP online, like grandma.
I agree that it doesn’t necessarily fall under the umbrella of “etiquette,” but I always think it’s nice to have a pre-stamped RSVP postcard or envelope so that I can put it back in the mail immediately instead of trying to remember to buy stamps before the deadline- people just don’t use the postage system the way we used to.
Post # 6
I said yes, mainly because you want to make more as easily as possible for people to answer in a timely manner. I pay my bills mainly online, so it’s rare that I have stamps laying around.
Post # 7
@TwoCityBride: But then, would that mean you just rather respond online over mailing a card in too?
Post # 8
I offered both options and still included the stamps. I ended up with about 95% of the RSVPs mailed back to me and the rest were online RSVPs.