Post # 1
I CANNOT REMEMBER THE LAST TIME I’VE SLEPT SO WELL!!!
My planned Jackosn Hole wedding is in 5 months. My dad was given less than that to live. Fiance and I have a month before we can cancel and get all of our money back (thankfully). I think the sheer likelihood of having these two events very close is reason enough for us to cancell the wedding and go elope later in the year after the dust has settled (it was also highly considered prior to this news).
So because I need to finish my thesis before dad really declines, I gave myself permission to STOP thinking about what to do for at least one month.
I just have to stay, the last 5 nights I have slept so well – ever since I told myself to stop worrying for right now.
Before I’d take so long to fall asleep worrying about wedding details that had yet to come, and wake up in the middle of the night a little panicked and overwhelemd with pulling off a nice wedding. I did wake up the first few nights crying about loosing my dad, I’m sure I will again, but letting go of having to worry about the wedding I think is such a relief in general.
I guess that was another pro for eloping.
Post # 3
@sienna76: YAY for getting a good sleep! That is awesome. I am sorry about your dad. I hope you have a couple of wonderful months with him!
Post # 4
Another good thing – the money that would have gone towards that wedding can now be used for tickets to fly home with out stressing about funds. I was out there last month, going again in March and hopefully some more times after that. I’m in Utah; he’s in Illinois.
Post # 5
It’s crazy, isn’t it!? Planning a wedding should be fun, but it’s freaking stressful! Really sorry to hear about your Dad. Have you thought about just having a private ceremony before he passes? My best friend, who is a photographer, just shot a wedding yesterday. They had it at an old folks’ home (they literally moved the shuffleboard setup aside so they could have the ceremony). The most impotant thing to the bride was that her grandparents be there, so she got married where they live. The ceremony was sweet, emotional, and perfect. Makes my heart flutter. 🙂
Post # 6
I personally don’t want to rush my wedding on account of sad circumstances. It’s not my dad’s dying wish or anything, and he’d want us to do it whatever manner makes us happiest. My sisters said it would not be a nice thing to do to them (make them put on fake smiles) and they said it’s the least of my dad’s worries at the moment. I personally think I’d be bawling (not the happy kind) the whole time.
Now if it were his dying wish that would be different, but I am well aware that it is not, so it would be purely be about me me me, which would be not right at this time.
So when the person everyone THINKS you should have witness the wedding doesn’t really find it necessary then it kinds of changes your perspective.
I had no family the first time I got married (eloped as well). I regretted how unspecial the whole day was – we went back to work th same day! How sad. I wanted to still have a celebration but when you plan a party after the fact, no on really cares. The buzz goes away. So I also know you get one shot at a wedding. So at least I know what I would regret and would not regret, I think. As long as my Fiance and I made it special to us I would be just fine.