(Closed) I gave up :(

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: If he took the ring back would you
    still keep trying? : (3 votes)
    2 %
    walk away? : (147 votes)
    98 %
  • Post # 3
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    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @beeeforeigocrazy:  What a bummer 🙁 I’m very sorry to hear that…Just let it ride for a little bit. I’m hoping he has a change of heart!

    Post # 4
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    3321 posts
    Sugar bee

    @beeeforeigocrazy:  I’m very sorry you’re going through this, but from what you posted before, he does not deserve to get to date you after all this. He is manipulating you and getting exactly what he wants, and you are not moving on and giving yourself the chance to find someone you can trust, communicate with, and have a commitment with. Wouldn’t you rather have all that, then continue to date someone that is not only wasting your time, but ultimately doesn’t care enough about you to respect your feelings and desires? I really hope you walk away, and give yourself the chance to find someone worthy, because he really is out there.

    Post # 5
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    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @beeeforeigocrazy:  This really sucks. I’d spend the next few weeks evaluating what you really want out of this relationship.

    It’s not fair to you if you continue to date… like what’s the point? You’ll just resent him more and more and waste more of your life on this guy.

    If you think that re-visiting the topic once things have settled down a bit might lead to marriage, then I suppose you should stay… but it doesn’t look too good right now.

    Generally when a guy doesn’t want to get married, he means it. You can’t change his mind.

    Post # 6
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    3692 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I totally agree with whitums.

    Post # 7
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    7693 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @whitums:  +1000000  You don’t want to spend your life with someone vindictive.  Treat yourself with respect by dumping this chump.  Allow yourself to find someone new that treats you better!

    Post # 8
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    2573 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I voted “Walk away.” Seriously, no happy marriage starts with the girl waiting around and praying that a guy has a change of heart when it comes to marrying her. Guys usually know right away whether they want to marry you or not or whether they want to make the “investment” in you. The fact that he said what he did tells you that he has no intention of marrying you. Please don’t continue to let him have the milk for free – you are way better than this. ::Hugs::

    Post # 9
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    45 posts
    Newbee

    @beeeforeigocrazy:   lf you have given up hope for the future, then why are you still dating? What is the point?

    I would say, if you aren’t getting what you need out of the relationship then you should leave.

    Post # 11
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    924 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Walk away. Let him see what he’s missing.

    Post # 12
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    482 posts
    Helper bee

    can you be happy just dating 10-20 years from now without marriage in the cards? could you sacrifice your desire for marriage in order to just date him? from looking at your previous post, including this one i dont think you could. 

    i had to ask myself the same questions which led to my final decision to walk. if marriage is important to you dont sacrifice it, you will live with regret and resentment towards him for making that choice to just *date* him.

    life is short, if its something you want, you should pursure it.

    Post # 13
    Member
    3053 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    Why on earth would you still stay if you have no hope for the future?

    Post # 14
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee

    @soontobemrsm11:  exactly. Why put yuorself through that? Somewhere out there, there is a man that actually WANTS to marry you. 

    Post # 15
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    9578 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I really think you need to leave him completely.  WHY are you still dating someone like this?  What’s the point?  You will just end up wasting more of your time.  I’m sorry but I think you need to walk away completely.

    Post # 16
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    1339 posts
    Bumble bee

    From your previous posts I don’t understand why you are still wasting your time with him at all. You need to get your dignity back and love yourself again first.

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