I get it… you want CASH (Rant)

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
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  • Post # 211
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    somathemagical :  thats what i meant, we put our wedding website which lead to our registry on our save the dates. And since we did our rsvp through our wedding website we put the website on our invite as well. 

    Post # 212
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

     tiffanybruiser :  “I think it’s ridiculous” and the rest of your statements are all based on opinion. The posts on this board are primarily that. Opinion. Opinions are subjective. You thinking my comparison is ridiculous is your problem not mine. I think it’s ridiculous that people are offended by a poem the substance of which is basically encouraging you to do something you say you are going to do anyway. Oh my gosh the horror!

    As for not replying anymore because some people want me to go away (as if I am here to do the bidding of others) they too have the option of not talking to me or replying to me. I’m going to practice what I preach and do what I am comfortable doing. Which means if I feel like replying then I will if I don’t I won’t. Deal with it, or don’t. Your reaction is up to you like mine is up to me.

    Post # 213
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    somathemagical :  I can’t believe this was said at all. Let alone on a formal invitation….I get that people want cash, but not like this…

    Post # 214
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    diybee :  see, now you’ve gone and mucked up my very clear analogy by highlighting (in a very confusing and rambling way) the difference between etiquette and tradition. let me step around your very wide detour and get back to the point. when you are hosting a party, it is rude to do something that you know will make a large number of your guests uncomfortable. If all of the characters in this saga are Americans(re: my refusal to speak for cultures I’m not sufficiently familiar with), we can safely conclude they knew this. It’s rude. 

    Paramount–of course–in etiquette is to take insult in stride. It would be rude to attempt some sort of snarky revenge. All revenge is quite rude. The horror. But that doesn’t mean the original act is excused. asking for money is rude. It’s definitely extremely distinguished from a honeyfund which offers an option to give money but leaves the door open to choice. Really, in any instance, telling your guests that only one kind of gift will truly be appreciated is the epitome of awful. 

    Post # 215
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    beckybee787 :  You are assuming a large number of her guests will be uncomfortable.  None of us know. The assumption is that they are all mostly like you instead of that she knows her guests and knows this won’t bother them in the least. The point of etiquette is to ensure the comfort of others. If her guests or anyone’s guests are okay with it then no breach has occurred. Save for the one guest posting here who has the option of just walking away as this bride is obviously not her kind of people.

    Post # 216
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    I am still slightly confused with registry etiquette, constantly conflicting advice. Dont do this, that’s tacky, do this. Keep your registry off your invite. 

    I’m a pretty straightforward person, and I prefer a clear guide for everything in life, not just wedding stuff. so i put “for more information and registry” on the back of my invite. 

    I have been hounded by family to add more on my resgistty, and to register at more places….there’s only so much stuff we actually need for our new lives! 

    Do I think (where I am from) it is tacky to flat out ask for cash? Yeah, I do. But if I love the couple (even if I was slightly annoyed by a silly poem) and want to go, I will play along…here’s your check, pass the cake. 

     

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