Post # 1
I’ve been a long time lurker here but never brave enough to sign up for the waiting list and now I’m very happy to say I don’t have to! My fiancé (it feels so strange calling him that!) proposed last weekend and I am over the moon!
We go away every January to spend a weekend together and have been going to the same country estate hotel for a few years (they have a great spa). This year we were able to use a free night offer to upgrade to a suite in the old Georgian part of the house overlooking the huge old tree the estate is built around. We had a wonderful weekend of relaxing and reading and swimming and I had has a suspicion something would happen as we’d talked a lot about getting life moving forward this year and he put a lot of effort into planning the weekend.
His little brother proposed to his girlfriend in early January (they’d been together about half as long as we have) and I was worried this might put my fiancé off proposing in the same month, which would have been a shame as January always felt like our month as we both have our birthdays in Jan when no-one else we know does. After we checked out we went for walk to the estate lake. Once we checked out I was a little disappointed that he hadn’t proposed to be honest, I thought that the opportunity was gone. I started to think had I misread the signs? While we were walking I mentioned that I hoped his brother proposing wouldn’t effect any plans of his as it would be very sad if someone else’s decision in their life affected ours negatively. He agreed that it shouldn’t.
As we headed back to the hotel to get ready to go I was taking lots of photos and I wandered around to the side our room had faced, the side with the biggest, oldest tree. He took my hand and led me underneath the tree. It was just getting dark and the tree was all lit up. He said ‘look up’ and told me the story of the tree, that it was older than the estate, it had survived centuries of storms and changes and it still stood proud and strong, protecting the families that lived there. It had seen many families pass through and was there long before we were born and would be there long after us. Then he held both my hands and told me he wanted to grow old with me. That I was his home, his partner in crime, his port in a storm. That he thought he’d been searching for a faith when he realised he’d been searching for me. Then he said ‘will you do me the honour of being my wife?’ And I couldn’t say anything but yes. yes, yes, yes, yes, yes!
We were so excited and happy and took a photo to remember and then went and had a cocktail and dinner in the hotel before driving home. It was perfect! He didn’t have a ring, which seems to be a bone of contention among some bees but we’re in the UK and it’s common enough to propose and then choose the ring together. He wanted to propose with a beautiful place holder ring from a local jewellery designer called ISLE but he didn’t have my ring size (I only wear one ring and never take it off) so we ordered one as soon as we got home and it’ll be finished next week! It can become my right hand ring when the engagement ring arrives. He did however, nail the type of engagement ring I wanted which is pretty impressive as I’m really picky.
We decided not to tell our families for a few weeks so we can plan everything together first. We are getting married this August so there’s not a lot of time so we’d rather tell people we are getting married and be able to tell them the details at the same time. It’s actually really fun having our own little secret and planning on how to tell people 🙂 So that’s my very long story and I can’t wait until August!! Yay!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
Oh that is so lovely!!! I’m from the UK too and I’m glad you’ve been able to choose your ring! Please show us once it arrives!
The hotel and spa sound amazing – I’m sure you’ll be going even more now to remember your proposal 😀
Post # 3
It’s so lovely!
And you’ll always have your tree to go back to throughout your lives together too.
We did planning in secret before announcing it officially and I agree it’s a lovely thing just for the two of you.
Do you know what kind of wedding you want? Where will it be?
Post # 4
Congratulations. Your Fiance sounds amazing and very romantic! I’m also a UK bee who didn’t get ‘The Ring’ at the actual engagement. It’s so much better that way, so well done to him! I was more than happy to go and help choose something we both loved, and I would have hated shopping for rings before I got engaged- I’d imagine that takes away all the ‘will he, won’t he?’ fun.
August is a very do-able timeline. I had/have 8 months and it hasn’t felt rushed at all.
Post # 5
Thank you all, it’s all very exciting! Also because it’s a secret, I can’t tell any of my friends yet so this is a great place to go 🙂
Post # 6
I will! It will take about six weeks though (boo) but I’m getting my place holder ring next week (yay). The engagment ring looks like this:
And the place holder one is this one in white gold:
Post # 8
I didn’t think about that, yes, we can always say that’s our tree 🙂
I’m from Dublin so we’re getting married there and we’ve already booked Dublin City Hall for the ceremony. It’s right in the city centre and I’ve always thought it was beautiful. You have your ceremony beneath the rotunda. It looks like this:
Post # 9
wow that is seriously so romantic! congrats! I loved how he brought the tree into it as a huge metaphor. I’ma sucker for a good metaphor. Adorable. 🙂
Post # 10
I agree, I can’t imagine how much torture it must be to know the ring is in the house and that he could ask at any time! Plus this way we got to get all excited together afterwards.
I’m glad you think my timescale is okay, I’m worried when we tell people they’ll think we’re mad. But so far it’s actually been pretty straight forwards, we have the venue for the ceremony booked, the celebrant booked, the drinks reception booked, the wedding bus booked and on saturday we’re looking at the only venue we really want and will probably book that too! The dress, however, may be an issue…….
Post # 11
gasp! Gorgeous! I love Dublin. That’s beautiful and if you’ve nailed that already and your date is in you’re fine. It seems long lead in for dress time is the norm but I think youll find lots of things ready to go. You may even get a great deal. Or you could have something made. Any ideas what style you’d like?
Post # 12
Eep, I haven’t even thought about the dress style yet! We’ve been running around geting the rings and booking the ceremony, the celebrant, the chairs and the champagne reception for the ceremony and viewings of the reception venue!
Once we have the venue booked and we tell people, I’m taking a few weeks off planning (all of my 10 days of it!) and I’m going to enjoy being engaged and celebrating instead 🙂 I think at this stage I’ll just be getting an off the rail number, but that’s fine. Or my secret hope is to get fit enough in the next few months to get into a beautiful beaded ivory dress that my dad bought me for a ball a few years before he passed but I ended up not going so the dress is still in my wardrobe. But I don’t want to put huge pressure on myself to be a ‘gym bunny bride’ in the next few months. We’ll see. So many things to think about!!!
Post # 13
So wonderful, congrats! I’m a US bride, but untraditional, I guess. I was involved in selecting the ring, then the proposal came a few months later. I love that my guy was open to it (he wanted to surprise me initially). Now, he likes that I love my ring.