(Closed) I GLADLY cut my budget in half…for nothing?

posted 6 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
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643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Frown I’m sorry that really sucks. He definitely should have told you sooner. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@PeachyKiwi:  sorry to hear that.  I got confused tho, you told your parents to keep half the money to pay for your brother & his wife to come and now they arent coming?  Sorry if Im being slow, had a long day lol…

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

@PeachyKiwi:  and they are not coming now? So shouldn’t you have that money now since they are not coming? Makes sense to me….

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Was this money you earned?  If so, it should be yours.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@PeachyKiwi:  If it money your parents generously offered, then you don’t have any claim to it.  I don’t see why you would think you did.

I don’t understand why your brother and his wife aren’t coming.  Have you spoken to them?

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@PeachyKiwi:  So when you say “saved” money, you mean you did not spend the entire budget you were given.  Gotcha.

From what you’ve said, it seems that your parents would have offered to pay for your brother and his wife’s plane tickets as well as hotel accommodation.  Is that true?  Are they still offering?  Why not just say, “Hey, Mikey, dad said he will pay for you and June’s tickets.  It’s not a big deal.  I really want you there!”

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@PeachyKiwi:  when your brother said he wanted to let you know, what was he letting you know, that they couldnt come or wouldnt come?  I guess in hindsight (not that you could ever have known this would happen) it would have been better to get the whole budget given to you and you contact your brother yourself and tell him you could pay for him.  I guess you dont know how it was worded to him or if he felt like he couldnt take your money, maybe he felt guilted by it.  It sux you dont get your full budget now, did your parents pay the full amount for your brothers wedding? Do your parents have enogh money to pay for your brother etc now if they do decide to come?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@PeachyKiwi:  oh yeah I didnt think about the fact he was a guy lol, just thought maybe your parents gave the same amount to each child.  My FIs family arent contributing at all so not sure what guys families pay for now. 🙂  Are your parents not coming either or just your brother and SIL?  It does suck not knowing who is coming of not.  I am having a Destination Wedding and some people are pulling out also but I kind of expected it as I know it is a lot of cost…

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