(Closed) I got an invitation yesterday…

posted 10 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s a good thing to keep in mind, and I’m glad you were able to get it straightened out without any trouble. I’ve seen some posts here where other bees have struggled with what to do about the +1s. Here’s a couple that I found, but I’m pretty sure if you dig around there are more posts on the topic:


Help!! Singles are bringing guests when “and guest” was not on the invite.



Post # 4
1428 posts
Bumble bee

@Lisa – With the joys & roller-coaster ride that is wedding planning, I do think this is something that slips through the cracks sometimes – it was great that you were able to check with the mom 🙂

Another something I would like to piggyback onto your gentle reminder (hope it’s okay)…I was invited to a wedding a few years ago with my then boyfriend. I knew immediately due to his work schedule & our budget that he would not be able to attend with me, so I immediately contacted the bride’s mom to let her know that it would be just me (also mailed back my RSVP) and she was very appreciative as it was quite a large wedding so they were able to add a +1 to another friend who otherwise would not have attended alone.

Post # 5
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Coincidently, I’m like the "bride" in this scenario.  Since we didn’t do inner envelopes, I had no where to put "plus one" on the invitations.  I didn’t think about this until after we’d had them printed, though.  My fiance thinks most people just "know" that they can bring a guest, but I’m worried people will assume they can’t.  On our RSVP cards, it does say "make your selections" (plural), but that’s the only indication.  The name line only reads: M_________________.  Looking back, I wish we had made it clearer, but I’m hoping that most people will assume they can or ask.  I’ve also told my single friends that they could bring someone. 

Post # 6
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

We put "ang guest" right on the outer envelope because we weren’t doing inner envelopes and we didn’t want there to be confusion. I’m glad she brought it up because that can be such an awkward conversation!

Post # 7
1230 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I just dealt with this for my cousin’s upcoming July nuptials.  They had no inner envelope and my (unmarried) brother did not know whether he could invite a guest.

Note: We asked my aunt (MOG) and she said "Oh, of course!"  Then I thought my brother should get this straight from the bride – and she actually told him that they had not intended for him to bring a guest and apologized. 

So…. @liztwinz…I would still check this out with the bride.  As we all know, sometimes there are communication break-downs between brides and moms 🙂

Post # 8
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010 - Jewel Box in Forest Park and Windows on Washington

Somewhat of an "iffy" subject.  Generally, "and Guest" or "Plus One" is on the outside of the envelope.  Traditionally, most guests will assume if it is only addressed to them, that they are not supposed to bring a guest.  The inner envelope should state who exactly the invitation is intended for.  Obviously, many brides are opting to not use an inner envelope, but it should still be communicated in some way shape or form.  This will prevent any confusion or any unwelcomed guests.

Hope this helps!

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