(Closed) I got asked if I was pregnant…..and I’m NOT!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Oh don’t worry about this old Betty.  She may not be entirely “with it” and she obviously doesn’t have manners.  It sounds like you handled the situation beautifully.  Hold your head up and don’t think another minute about this!!!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Oh, ouch.  You know, those babydoll styles probably aren’t something that stodgy old aunts are used to.  I’ve always been pretty petite, but I swear a couple of those babydolls I have, make me look pregos.  I catch myself half consciously smoothing them down in public sometimes.

Hang in there.  I’ll bet she was in left field on that one.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

OMG I made a post about this too. Most people told me to brush it off and get over it but it doesn’t change the fact that it’s embarrasing and doesn’t make you feel good! But the way I think about it, the lady is kinda ridiculous- I mean everybody knows you don’t ask a lady if she’s pregnant unless you already KNOW she is via word of mouth or whatever. Way to play with the boundries of normal social conduct lady! She’s just a silly πŸ˜€

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I agree that older ladies tend to equate that kind of clothing with pregnancy. Hey, i had someone ask me…when i was 17….and lifeguarding….in a swimsuit. At least you had an excuse with your clothing AND a belly band. People are pretty clueless and rude…maybe someone told someone who told someone and she was told you WERE pregnant? Versus her thinking you’re pregnant?

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh man.   Old people say weird things.  So sorry babe–Don’t let it get you down. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Maybe she confused the rumor of your getting married to your having a baby? Or maybe she’s just a rude old lady. lol I know I have many aunts who are pretty blunt in things they have to say. This hasn’t happened to me so I struggle to tell you to brush it off; but I guess that’s what I would try and do. Just brush it off and maybe if you are struggling with weight it can give you a little motivation! Or if your not struggling and your happy with yourself; I’d say try and laugh it off. Because she’s looking pretty silly right now!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

 The way you describe the encounter with her turning around and saying “I thought she was pregnant” makes me think that she thought she heard it somewhere, and has nothing to do with how you look. Perhaps she ws confused because she knew you had a son and just got mixed up.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I agree.. it sounds as though she was confused and was *told* that you were pregnant. Not that you looked it. Although maybe what she thought she heard + babydoll top = prego in her mind? Don’t worry about it!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Um hello, hasnt she go the memo all night? If there was no talk about a baby on the way then obviously you arent pregnant, duh!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

She was probably just confused.  Maybe she heard there was a big event coming up for you, and thought you were having a baby instead of having a wedding?

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I was asked that by a peer.  It was at my friends engagement party and I was so prepared to say something really rude but I realized this event was more important.  The funny thing is, the guest of honor (my friend) flipped on her for being so rude.  The thing was, I had only gained like 5 lbs since the last time I saw this person, and I was wearing a long summer dress, which she claimed to of assumed was a maternity dress.  She isn’t very fashionable so I guess it was an honest mistake.  Some people just have no couth. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Nice. I wouldn’t worry about this lady – she obviously doesn’t have a clue what she’s talking about. I have an aunt who is in her 40’s and if all counted, has probably asked me 15+ times since I was 18, if I’m pregnant. I wasn’t then and am not now (and by her count I would have 15+ kids to date!). Gracious. People need to learn to keep their ‘thoughts’ to themselves. πŸ™‚ Just ignore ridiculous people. That’s what I have to do!!! πŸ™‚

Bella

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I agree – Thing is, pregnant or not I don’t know why people ASK!?  I mean honestly, if someone was pregnant and wanted you to know, they would be actively talking with you about their pregnancy.

I was asked this weekend by my future step-father in law if I was pregnant, too.  I said I have been sick for three weeks and he assumed it, even though I was coughing during the phone call and have a scratchy voice.  We have been together 4 years – I find it rude that people ask if we are getting married ebcause I’m pregnant too.  How about no?  I’m about to tell my FIL’s that I have an IUD just so that word gets around and people stop ASKING.

In your case, I’m sure it was the combination of your top and the band.  Try to shrug it off as best you can.  Easier said than done, I know πŸ™

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Ugh., I hate it when people ask questions like that.  Alot of times people don’t think/realize what they think is an innocent question can actually hurt someone (either that or they dont think at all!!).  Don’t stress about it.  as christalynn11 said, its easier said than done, but you’ll only wind up overthinking it.

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