Post # 1
I got engaged at 29 before my 30th birthday. I am getting married at 31. I am turning 31 close to the end of this month and getting married two weeks later. Am I old lol? I feel like 90 percent of my friends are already married. Most people got married in their mid twenties. Am I alone here? I know this sounds a little silly since I know people who got married at the first time at 40 or 50 but I just feel like an older bride at 31. My fiance and I already lived together for a few years before we are getting married. Is this the new norm or am I a weirdo? I guess I just feel self conscious that I am a little older. I look fine but I was skinnier in my early 20s I guess its just harder being a bride in her 30’s vs 20s . Does anyone else feel this way. I feel like I just ended up meeting the right guy a little bit later. Did this happen to anyone else? My long term relationship before this one lasted 5 years and the guy basically would not commit ( hes still not married even though hes had the same gf for like 4 years) I feel like this made me waste time because I thought this guy was going to marry me. It ended up being a blessing because I met someone way better. I just still feel like sometimes cheated that I met my person at an older age and now I am an older bride etc lol
Post # 2
I’d say in Europe late 20s to early 30s is the norm. Definitely not uncommon to be mid30s.
Americans seem to marry much younger, and have much higher divorce/remarriage rates.
Really, why does it matter, once you’ve met the right guy 😉
Post # 3
I’m on the east coast, and late 20s is definitely when most people in my area start getting married. I know it’s much younger in other areas like the south or the midwest.
But I agree with you…as long as you find the right person, the age doesn’t matter at all.
Post # 4
I really don’t see why it would be harder to be a bride in your 30s vs your 20s.
Post # 5
Met DH technically at age 28, started dating at age 29, engaged at age 30 and married at age 31.
Was it ideally the way I would have planned it? Nope. Would I change anything now? Nope, not a thing.
We both had serious relationships that didn’t work out. My DH had dated someone for 5 years; I was previously engaged. So I think things happen for a reason. I have never had a relationship like the one we had so while sometimes I wish we were younger, it’s not something I dwell on. I’m glad I have the experience and the knowledge from those past relationships. I discovered a lot about myself, like it’s OK to say what you want. It’s OK to have deal breakers and don’t go into marriage expecting someone to change.
Congrats on your upcoming wedding!
Post # 6
Nope. 30s are great to get married I think.
I got engaged on my 38th, wedding one month before my 39th. Our baby due soon around my 40th.
Post # 7
I got engaged during my 30th birthday vacation and will be getting married just 2 weeks before turning 32. Honestly, I think the later in life that you get married the higher chance of it lasting.
Post # 8
Congrats! This makes me feel better! Thank you. I think a lot of it is that my friends are like all married with children and some of them working on their 2nd and 3rd kids. It makes me feel like left behind. Even though I know I am still fine etc. Its hard not to compare yourself. I know my older sister just got married and is trying to have a baby now and shes 39. I feel bad because she is having trouble conceiving. I guess everything just makes me nervous that I am on a ticking clock or so something but I dont want to rush things either because I feel like thats when people dont get along like when they push things too fast.
Post # 9
I’m in the same boat! Engaged at 29, and will be married a few weeks after my 31st birthday. You’re not alone 🙂
Post # 10
I’m getting married about a month before my 31st birthday, got engaged at 29. Honestly none of my friends are married yet! I think late 20s is the norm to meet your partner! I met Fiance the week before my 28th birthday. When I was little i wanted to be married with 2 kids by 27, like my mum. I stayed far too long in a rubbish relationship from 20-25, thank god I didn’t marry *that* guy!!
Post # 11
Just about every single friend is married with children already, and I don’t give a single fig.
I’m getting engaged later this month at age 32, and we’ll get married when I’m 33. TTC by 35.
I don’t feel old at all. If I had tried to “compete,” I would have settled down with the ENTIRELY wrong person and probably be stuggle city right about now. Instead, I took my time, went my natural pace, and am marrying a guy 10 x’s better than I ever could have imagined.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2018 - Our Backyard
I married at 29 1/2. Divorced at 37. Been with my current boyfriend 4 years and will be at least 41 (that’s what I am now) or 42 when I marry him. you’re not old. I think it’s smart to wait till youre older because people do a lot of growing in their 20s. Hell, I did a lot of growing in my 30s and just now feel like I know who I am. Maybe. 😝
Post # 13
I had the exact same trajectory! I got engaged at 29 and married at 31. I was one of the last of my friends to get married but what can ya do – I am very thankful I didn’t marry any of the turds I dated in my early-mid 20s!
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal
My husband and I met when I was 25, him 28. Engaged at 29 / 31 and married at 32 / 34 this past March. I do believe the timing when we got married was right for both of us. While I do wish the timing would have been right a few years earlier, looking back we both individually and as a couple just weren’t there yet. I think the only issue that arises when marrying in your 30s is if you plan to have children. As I approach 33, I’m bothered that we still aren’t in a position to start TTC. We are comfortable financially, but my husband is still finishing up school and once I get pregnant, I will need to resign from my job that I love.
Post # 15
Don’t worry- I get that feeling somtimes too, that I’m too old to be get married/ be a bride. That feeling isn’t helped by the fact that my fiance is 4 year younger than I am. I met my fiance when I was 31, got engaged at 34 (2 months before my birthday), and will be married at 35. Most of my friends are just now getting engaged/married (in fact, three of us have gotten engaged this year- one just this past weekend). And honestly, I don’t think I would have been ready before now- I had no idea who I was, what I wanted, or what I was doing. Being a little older and having more perspective is not a bad thing at all!