I got engaged at 29 before my 30th birthday. I am getting married at 31

posted 2 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I’d say in Europe late 20s to early 30s is the norm. Definitely not uncommon to be mid30s. 

Americans seem to marry much younger, and have much higher divorce/remarriage rates. 

Really, why does it matter, once you’ve met the right guy 😉 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

cinderdora :  I’m on the east coast, and late 20s is definitely when most people in my area start getting married. I know it’s much younger in other areas like the south or the midwest.

But I agree with you…as long as you find the right person, the age doesn’t matter at all.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

blushingbridelove :  I really don’t see why it would be harder to be a bride in your 30s vs your 20s.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

blushingbridelove :  Met Darling Husband technically at age 28, started dating at age 29, engaged at age 30 and married at age 31.

Was it ideally the way I would have planned it?  Nope.  Would I change anything now?  Nope, not a thing. smile

We both had serious relationships that didn’t work out.  My Darling Husband had dated someone for 5 years; I was previously engaged.  So I think things happen for a reason.  I have never had a relationship like the one we had so while sometimes I wish we were younger, it’s not something I dwell on.  I’m glad I have the experience and the knowledge from those past relationships.  I discovered a lot about myself, like it’s OK to say what you want.  It’s OK to have deal breakers and don’t go into marriage expecting someone to change.

Congrats on your upcoming wedding!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper

Nope. 30s are great to get married I think. 

I got engaged on my 38th, wedding one month before my 39th. Our baby due soon around my 40th. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I got engaged during my 30th birthday vacation and will be getting married just 2 weeks before turning 32. Honestly, I think the later in life that you get married the higher chance of it lasting. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’m in the same boat! Engaged at 29, and will be married a few weeks after my 31st birthday. You’re not alone 🙂

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’m getting married about a month before my 31st birthday, got engaged at 29. Honestly none of my friends are married yet!  I think late 20s is the norm to meet your partner! I met Fiance the week before my 28th birthday. When I was little i wanted to be married with 2 kids by 27, like my mum. I stayed far too long in a rubbish relationship from 20-25, thank god I didn’t marry *that* guy!!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Just about every single friend is married with children already, and I don’t give a single fig. 

I’m getting engaged later this month at age 32, and we’ll get married when I’m 33. TTC by 35.

I don’t feel old at all. If I had tried to “compete,” I would have settled down with the ENTIRELY wrong person and probably be stuggle city right about now. Instead, I took my time, went my natural pace, and am marrying a guy 10 x’s better than I ever could have imagined. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - Our Backyard

I married at 29 1/2. Divorced at 37. Been with my current boyfriend 4 years and will be at least 41 (that’s what I am now) or 42 when I marry him.  you’re not old. I think it’s smart to wait till youre older because people do a lot of growing in their 20s. Hell, I did a lot of growing in my 30s and just now feel like I know who I am. Maybe. 😝

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper

I had the exact same trajectory! I got engaged at 29 and married at 31. I was one of the last of my friends to get married but what can ya do – I am very thankful I didn’t marry any of the turds I dated in my early-mid 20s!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017 - Nepal

My husband and I met when I was 25, him 28. Engaged at 29 / 31 and married at 32 / 34 this past March. I do believe the timing when we got married was right for both of us. While I do wish the timing would have been right a few years earlier, looking back we both individually and as a couple just weren’t there yet. I think the only issue that arises when marrying in your 30s is if you plan to have children. As I approach 33, I’m bothered that we still aren’t in a position to start TTC. We are comfortable financially, but my husband is still finishing up school and once I get pregnant, I will need to resign from my job that I love. 

Post # 15
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Newbee

Don’t worry- I get that feeling somtimes too, that I’m too old to be get married/ be a bride. That feeling isn’t helped by the fact that my fiance is 4 year younger than I am. I met my fiance when I was 31, got engaged at 34 (2 months before my birthday), and will be married at 35. Most of my friends are just now getting engaged/married (in fact, three of us have gotten engaged this year- one just this past weekend). And honestly, I don’t think I would have been ready before now- I had no idea who I was, what I wanted, or what I was doing. Being a little older and having more perspective is not a bad thing at all!

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