I got engaged at 29 before my 30th birthday. I am getting married at 31

posted 2 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Personally, I don’t really think you should get married before you’re 30, but what do I know. 

I’ll be 32 when we get married. I’m not old. 

Post # 17
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Blushing bee

blushingbridelove :  My husband and I just got married last year at 30 and 32, after living together for 6.5 years.  A lot of my friends have just gotten married in their late twenties and early thirties.  So I think it’s normal! πŸ™‚

Post # 18
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3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I certainly don’t feel old…and I got married last year at 35. It was exactly the right time for me. I wasn’t ready to be in a healthy relationship until I was 30, and I didn’t meet the right guy until 33…so here I am. 

Post # 19
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Worker bee

blushingbridelove :  I hear you, it sometimes feels like a race (particularly among my similar-aged friends) and it really shouldn’t be one! My parents married early (mid-twenties) and had children very late — and the result is that long after most of their friends were empty-nesters, they were still raising my brother. It was their choice to wait to have children, but that meant (as an unintended side effect) they just got to enjoy certain things at a different life stage! In your case, I’m sure you’ve planned a pretty different wedding from the one you would have when you were 23. Enjoy it πŸ™‚ 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - State Park

I live in the northeast US. Engaged and married at 30. I am the second of alllll of my close friends to be married, and a great deal of my 29-31 year old friends aren’t even in serious relationships. 

So, no. You’re not weird and you didn’t miss out on anything and your marriage is statistically more likely to succeed than your friends who married earlier. 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I married at 32 and it was perfect. 

Post # 22
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Busy bee

blushingbridelove :  Im 26 (will be 27 this year) and was the first of my high school friends to get married, 3rd of my college friends. Darling Husband was 1st of his high school and college friends! I would say the “average” age is moving back quite a bit! 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

blushingbridelove :  I got married at 38, I felt less “princess-y” (I made up a word)! Lol

All jokes aside, I felt old compared to the younger brides. However, I was mature enough to focus on preparing for a solid marriage versus being a bride.

I think being a younger bride is more fun in the planning stages.

I also think being an 30+ wife is nice because we know ourselves as individuals and we have life experience. We’re established in our careers which definitely helps. 

Statistically we have a greater chance at avoiding divorce. 

Each decade has it’s pros and cons!

 

 

 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

I think so much of our perspective comes from our peer group. I got engaged at 30 and will get married at 31, but not a single one of my friends is married, engaged, or even really talking about it.

I actually sometimes feel like it’s so novel that I’m getting married and that I’m too young to be a ‘wife’ but then remember that it’s pretty much average or just above average around here. My friend group is more career and social life oriented than some here, so some of the people I went to high school with are married and starting to have kids. But here I’d say anything under 28 is considered quite young. 30 is probably average. 

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I got engaged when I was 30 and just married at 31. I think it was the perfect age and don’t regret not getting married in my 20’s…which I don’t think would have turned out well considering past long term relationships πŸ˜•. My circle goes both ways so I didn’t think it was odd that I got married in my 30’s. I have some friends/acquaintances that got married in their early 20’s and then I also know people my age or a little younger that are still single. I’m also big on getting married at a later age like late 20’s and early to mid 30’s. 

Post # 26
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Blushing bee

I am the exact same. I was 29 when we got engaged, 30 now, and our wedding will be when I’m 31 and he’s 37. Most of my best friends are married with a couple kids. We all have our own timelines, nothing wrong with those of us that aren’t the first. It’s not a contest, it’s our lives! πŸ™‚

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

No way!  I’m engaged now at 28, will be married at 29.  If anything I feel too young. 

Post # 28
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think getting married in your 30’s is fantastic. I’m totally biased, as I was 32 when we got married. I spent my 20’s working, traveling, accepting jobs in states where I didn’t know a single other person, and just generally learning who I am as a person, and also seeing what I am capable of. I was comfortable with my unmarried life, and I’m comfortable with my married life, but I really am happy that I had so many experiences when I was younger. 

I don’t think there is one right way to do marriage. Because of that, I have never felt strange about marrying in my 30’s. 

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

I never saw myself getting married before 30… I just never understood the rush. I met my SO when I was 29 and I’m 32 now. Not sure when we’ll get engaged but probably within the next year or two. Most of my friends aren’t married yet either. But then again they’re all from metropolitan cities where I think people tend to get married later. Personally, I’m glad I didn’t marry in my 20s. To each their own by all means, but I always predicted that my 30s would be a more suitable time. And what d’ya know…I think they will be πŸ™‚ 

Post # 30
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Busy bee

blushingbridelove :  absolutely not! I was same as you – engaged at 29, turned 30 a month later, then got married at 31 18 months later. Who cares what age you are – you and your fiancé are all that matter πŸ™‚ have fun!!

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