I got engaged at 29 before my 30th birthday. I am getting married at 31

posted 2 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

I also got engaged at 29 and will be married when I’m 31! I’m 30 now and I don’t feel old at all. In fact, I’ve never been more comfortable in my life and in my own skin 

Post # 62
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1429 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I met my husband at 30 and was 34 when we got married. It didn’t matter because he is the right person. 

Post # 63
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Worker bee

I think it depends on your region. I live in New York City – it’s common for people to get married later here since things like career/education often take priority over “settling down”. I’m 28, Fiance is 34 and I’m youngest of my city friends to be engaged. The last two weddings I went to were both for couples in their mid 30’s.

Alternatively, the NY-suburb where I went to high school at, many friends who stayed local ended up marrying in their early 20’s.

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I got married at 27 and that was early in my group of friends. We live in the Midwest. Two of my bridesmaids got married at 33 and my third isn’t married yet. We are 34 now. In the wider circle of friends early 30s is very common for a first marriage. I only know a few people that married in their early 20 and not all of them are still married. 

Post # 65
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Busy bee

39 and we’re not married yet. About half my friends aren’t married, out of that half, most are divorced and a couple are just not married. Most of them are coupled though in long term relationships. So in my friend group it’s totally normal and I don’t feel weird about it at all. Most of us had surprise kids when we were really young so we’ve just had different timelines than a lot of other people. 

Post # 66
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Helper bee

Fun fact: your chance of divorce decreases every year older you are when you get married until 32, after which it starts to rise again. (The prevailing theory is that you grow and change throughout your 20s and if you marry young, you can often grow apart from your spouse, but on the other hand, after a certain age you tend to be set in your ways and less likely to make necessary compromises- obviously this is not true in every case, just a theory for why the divorce rate curves as it does).

31 is a perfectly wonderful age to get married. 

Post # 67
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Bumble bee

You’re young and congrats!  I was engaged in my 20’s and it didn’t work out – it was for the best. I was never truly happy with him and while breaking up was very hard, it led me to meeting my husband down the road. I met my hubby when I was 32 and we got married in our mid 30’s. I truly feel like I was in my prime when I married him – I was happy, healthy, and in the best shape of my life. It really was the happiest time in my life. So just enjoy it and you are NOT an older bride!  No one in their right minds would think getting married at 31 is considered old.  Happy planning!  🙂

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