(Closed) I got FI “cybering” with someone online, what to do?

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 152
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

lol to tobin’s response! so true.

Post # 153
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Helper bee

Hmm.. You would assume that “wrong or not’ (totally wrong in my opinion), him now knowing how much it bothers and upsets you, it would be something he could give up, for the woman he is going to marry. I mean, really. If it upsets you, hurts you, makes you uncomfortable, he should cool it. Marriage is about compromise and I don’t think in any way, shape or form, you are asking TOO MUCH, by asking your Fiance to give up his cyber chatting. Like Adira said, she no longer does it now that she is married. For whichever reason, her choice or her hubby’s, she no longer does it, and she is not firmly against it. (Excuse me if I put words in your mouth Adira-not my intention)

I think that he is acting a little immature and not taking you seriously. When you tell him he has one minute to cool it or no weddding and he says, as only a smart *** would say, wanna three-way!!?? He is not appreciating or respecting you and your morals, in any way. It looks like you are in a One-way relationship and that is No Way to start a marriage.

One last strand of hope for me would be, counseling. I know it is a tricky subject for many men, but if there is anything worth salvaging, he should be willing and open to outside mediation, to put it best. Someone to help link up your two opposite opinions on this issue. I hate to say it, but just based on his reactions, I’d leave him. That being said, I totally stand behind you if you choose not to give up. It is not an easy thing to walk away from the man you have agreed to marry. But, I doubt he is gonna stop, if his reaction was as it was.

Good luck to you. Only you know what is the right thing for your life. But you have my support and there is no judgement, from me, on any decision you make. Trust your instincts.

Many HUGS 🙂

Post # 154
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61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

has the chick who caught her bf cyber even reading these or responded to us

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