Post # 1
well the title pretty much says it all.
I was let go at my 90 day review today because they told me I wasn’t learning fast enough and needed constant supervision and that wasn’t something they could provide to me.
This after being shoved into a supervisor’s position that I wasn’t hired for and didn’t want (my supervisor quit 3 weeks ago because she couldn’t handle working for the asshole CEO — and apparently she’s not the first or the last).
I just spent the last 2 weeks working myself to the bone, skipping lunch breaks, coming in early, and staying late while trying to coordinate a HUGE event that involved a foreign government and a $120 million deal. I worked a 14 hour day yesterday (the day of the event) and bent over backwards coordinating everything and handling any problems. (BTW I have NO experience with events this large)!!! I had about 8 employees at the event (and prior to the event) thank me and compliment me for helping. Everyone other person in the office said I was doing such a good job in all areas.
And today at my review, the CEO (who has been absent 75% of the time I’ve been working there) said that he got negative feedback from everyone.
I know that this was a toxic work environment and even if, by some miracle, the review had gone well today, I was going to be looking for a new job if things didn’t improve FAST, but obviously I would have preferred that I leave there on my own terms instead of theirs.
But the economy and job market is so terrible and when my fiance lost his job a few years ago it took him 6 months to find something!!! We are getting married in 1 year and supposed to buy a house before the end of this year.
I don’t need this. I don’t know what to do. I’ve already put deposits down on the hall, a DJ, a photographer, my dress. ohmygod.
I’m so afraid I will have to cancel my wedding and we will never own a house and I will be stuck living with my parents forever.
I feel like such a failure and a loser and I just don’t know what to do.
Post # 3
So sorry to hear about this! Really though, it sounds like it might have been for the better. This company was obviously not a good fit for you. And I’m sure it seems like it’s super soon right now, but a year is a lot of time. Just prioritize house v. wedding, and figure out where to go after that. Crunch numbers, see where you are. Then take a few days off, and start the job hunt.
I know it sucks, I’ve been there. Hang in there!
Post # 4
DEEP BREATHES HUN. Everything WILL be okay.
Fiance just became employed again after over a year of unemployment – not saying this to worry you that it will take you that long, but to let you know that even when we thought we couldn’t, we could and we did make it through (emotionally, financially, etc.) and trust me I don’t make all that much money!
Can you file for unemployment? That would be my first stop – it isn’t much, but it is SOMETHING. Apply for anything and everything you are qualified for – it is always easier to find a job when you have a job.
If you have to, take 2 part-time jobs to get up to 40+ hours. Not having benefits is the downside, but at least the cash flow is there. Can you get on FI’s health plan? Definitely look into that, as well.
So sorry you’re going through this but you will be fine I promise. You are NOT a failure or a loser. It happens to the best and brightest of us. You were ill prepared for your role and that is the extent of that.
Good luck with the job hunt – try not to be so hard on yourself. It will be frustrating, but maintain perspective – at the end of the day all that matters is that we have our loved ones – and you’re not lacking in that department! 😉
Post # 5
Oh and follow-up follow-up follow-up with jobs you have applied for if you haven’t heard back within 1-2 weeks. FI went above and beyond to hunt down personal e-mail addresses/phone numbers of people in HR to apply directly to them and not through a recruiter/website.
Post # 6
Try to just relax. Everything WILL work out! Think on the positive….given the toxic environment you may have driven yourself insane and/or became physcially ill working crazy hours and trying to plan a wedding. I know it is hard to think about it in these terms, but it may be a blessing in disguise. You are neither a failure nor a loser. At the end of the day you KNOW you did everything you were supposed to do as a worker. It sounds like your boss is a total d*ck and anyone in that supervisory role will either 1. Burnout or 2. Have no life.
@MrsWBS: Great advice!
Post # 7
Oh my gosh, I’m so sorry to hear this has happened! Just be thankful that if the people or job itself are terrible, you’ll be on a better path without them anyway. I truly believe everything happens for a reason, so if you just roll with the punches, trust that it’ll all work out for the best and you’ll be much happier in the end. Even if you have to scale back the wedding or do other things that seem unthinkable right now, it might be better anyway (smaller wedding = less chance for drama, a different caterer might be more trustworthy or have better food, etc). Know what I mean? Good luck!! Hugs
Post # 8
That sucks. I’m so sorry to hear that. Good luck!
Post # 9
Aw hun, I’m so sorry. *hug* You are NOT a failure or a loser. That CEO sounds like a douche and I’m sorry you got stuck with him.
I know what it’s like to be put in a position you’re not trained or ready for. They did that to me in the last position I had and then told me I was “careless” when in reality, I just didn’t know the right answer and had no one to ask because my supervisor was MIA 95% of the time. She would come in late, leave early and disappear for hours during the day and then say, “You could always reach me on my cell, you know!” and then never answer her cell. I swear. I’ve cried many a times, so I feel your pain. And the worst part of it all is that I knew I wasn’t incompetent, but I definitely felt like the biggest moron on the planet. It’s so unfair that they did that to you. *hug*
Unfortunately, while you didn’t really want the job, that doesn’t mean you didn’t need it and I totally get where you’re coming from. The only advice I can give is to try to apply for ANY job you can get to get through the coming months until you get something you actually like, or until you get through the wedding. Personally, if I already put deposits on stuff for the wedding, I would postpone the purchase of a home before I would lose those deposits. It really sucks, but at least you have a place to stay! Good luck on your job hunt and keep us posted.
Post # 10
Keep your chin up – that place sounds horrible and it may be a good thing you got out (no matter how) before it started affecting your health or your relationship.
Were you on hourly wages or on salary? If you were hourly, I’d report them for breaking the wage and hour laws or whatever they’re called – it sounds like they weren’t giving you all the breaks the law requires!
Post # 11
*Hugs* Take a deep breath, let yourself calm down a bit then re-assess.
You posted earlier, and while for me its my FH who lost his job – it does sound like we’re in a bit of similar situations.
I’m going to hope that this works out to be a blessing in disguise for both us – I’ll keep my fingers crossed that you can find a work environment that will help you learn and grow in your profession without being ina toxic work environment. That can suck the joy out of any job you love, and can leave you with a lot of baggage.
Hope you’ll keep us updated on how the job hunt goes.
Post # 12
@Stace126: don’t put yourself down, you are not a failure or a loser. You are just in an unfortunate situation. Based on the info you told, the ceo seems like an a**, and it doesn’t make sense that you said other employees were giving you compliments about the event, but then he says he has got nothing but negative feedback. It wasn’t your fault you were put into a job that you were not hired for and three weeks doesn’t seem like enough time to train someone for a postion they are not familiar with. I hope you won’t have to cancel your wedding :/ just keep faith and hope everything works out for the best!