Post # 1
ughh. I’m not shocked but it still sucks. my boss was almost impossible to please and i was really trying but knew I wasn’t doing as much as he wanted. I was hired to do marketing for his company and I have no marketing background, so I should have known it wasn’t the job for me. I’m upset with myself for leaving a fine job (didn’t love it, but I was secure and it paid the bills) to go work for him. He approached me about the position and I shouldn’t have accepted. He went on a spree last week and fired 6 people in about 48 hours.
Now, I’m trying to decide if I should look for something local (in TN) or more back home with my parents (in NJ). I hate where we’re living now, but my FI has to stay because he’s got a year left of school. So we’d probably be apart for at least 9 months until the wedding, but I don’t know what happens then. I feel selfish wanting to go back home and leave him here, but it would be nice if we could both live at home for a bit and save some money/pay off some bills. And with the holidays coming up, I’m sure I could find some retail stuff at least part time, enough to save if I don’t have to pay rent.
Just a vent, kind words always accepted though 🙂
Post # 3
@jrzvol: I’m sorry. It’s lousy. It happens in this economy. Any chance you could get your old job back?
Post # 4
aww, that’s awful, I’m sorry you are going through this!
That’s a good idea, to possibly try and get back your old job? Otherwise, I think you might be better off to stick it out with a retail job in the area, for the few months. 9 months is a long time to be away from your FI before the wedding, with all the planning you will be doing, you will definitely want to have him around. Are you guys both planning on moving back to NJ when he is done school? Perhaps you can work up until the christmas season is over, then go back a bit early, so you aren’t stuck there the whole time, and you will only be apart for a couple of months…
Post # 5
@carnivaltheme: Im not sure getting my old job back is possible. I was really looking to get out of there when this job came up and they knew it. And to make it kind of awkward, both companies are in contract with each other so I would see my old boss and coworkers regularly. I think I’m really looking for an excuse to go back to NJ, it’s just really scary leaving my FI. Our wedding is in NJ though and he really hasn’t done any planning, it’s been me and my mom. Our lease is up at the end of this month, so I would need to have a new one by then if I stayed. Eventually we do want to be in NJ, but FI has a great internship in TN now and will have job offer when he graduates.
Post # 6
I lived at home for a year while my then-boyfriend now-husband was in school. Honestly it really was the best choice for both of us. I worked my butt off and was able to save a bunch of money which we then used to move into a nice apartment after he was done with school. He was young and able to have fun with his friends. I think it gave us both a period of time to “find ourselves” and ultimately made the relationship stronger. I imagine it’s harder to do this as an engaged couple but I would still say it’s not as bad as it sounds.
Post # 7
Sorry to hear about your situation. I do think 9 months is a long time to live so far apart from each other. But it’s a really tough situation, and I can understand your desire to be back with your family. Best of luck!!
Post # 8
It sounds like your boss was mentally unbalanced. Yes, you admitted you had no marketing experience but 6 people in 48 hours? Yikes!
The way I make decision is literally a piece of paper and a pro/con list:
– Will you be able to find a job (at least seasonal) in TN?
– Would it be easier to find a job in NJ?
– How attached are you to the idea of living with FI?
– Financially – do you have bills you need to catch up with? If so, what living situation allows you to save money necessary?
Living so far apart from your FI an be difficult, especially in the run up to the wedding, if you haven’t before.
On a personal note, My parents and I don’t get a along very well at all but I’ve stayed at home in the months before the wedding (rather than finding an apartment with FH) to allow me to save money and give us a better future together.
We lament it sometimes, but my FH is always willing ot let me crash a night or so at his apartment when family life gets rough. It’s a bit harder when its NJ to TN though.
Post # 9
Are you going to apply for unemployment. In my area they have a non-profit called the Unemployment Law Project and they consult with you about your situation and then decide if they can take your case…all for free. If they win your case they ask that you make a donation.
Post # 10
Thanks for all the advice and kind words. I’m not sure if I’ll be filing for unemployment, I don’t know what the details are on whether or not I’d qualify. We need to be out of our condo by the end of the month, so we’ve decided FI will go back home and live with his mom while still going to school and working part time. I will probably go home to NJ at least through holiday season, it will be good to see my family.
I also have the option of moving to the town I went to college in, its only 3 hours from here and my parents still own the condo I lived in, so if I can find a job, thats a possibility. I’m feeling better than yesterday, but also feeling like a bit of a failure. I’ve never been fired before, and I’ve had a job at least part time since I was 14, so it will be weird staying home tomorrow morning.