(Closed) I got invited to a “Black Tie Preferred” wedding. What to wear?

posted 11 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yup, black tie=long=formal. But if you can’t afford it, really really dress up your cocktail dress and it’s ok. You’ll have guys there not in a tux, but in suits, so it happens.

Macys and Dillards would have long dresses, too. You can find really simple “prom” dresses that are long but not too bright or crazy and those work well.

This one is only $150 (i know it’s still a lot) but you could have it hemmed afterwards to wear it more often, too. http://www.dillards.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=301&langId=-1&storeId=301&productId=501889866&view=80&N=1604009&searchUrl=%2Fendeca%2FEndecaStartServlet%3Fview%3D80%26N%3D1604009&R=02853166 or consider buying one on Ebay that somebody no longer needs/fits into.

Post # 18
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh i just noticed it says “black tie preferred” so that means I want to say that you wouldn’t be the only guest in a nice cocktail dress that they dressed up.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

That means the Bride would like it if you dressed black tie … but if you cannot they understand and are letting you know that it’s very formal.

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Macy’s and Nordstrom’s have some gorgeous long dresses.  They might have a few on sale, or look for online coupon codes!  I would go with longer…then you’re guaranteed not to be out of place.

Post # 22
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Black tie prefered=wear a long dress 🙂 It is your safest bet unless you can get a VERY formal tea length dress.

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Along these lines- what would you (or would you?) add to an invite that’s not black tie formal, but you’d prefer guests wear suits and cocktail dresses over jeans?

I live in Chicago and am not used to people wearing jeans to weddings, but my mother recently informed me that I might want to include a note on my invites, as she recently went to a cousin’s wedding and everyone was wearing jeans…… 

Any thoughts or suggestions?  Thanks Ladies!  Laughing

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

yes black tie means wear a long dress.  THere are always plenty to chose from at the department stores at different price points.  I find that in California weddings tend to be more formal even though everyday dress is more casual.

Post # 26
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I put cocktail attire on my website and we had no problems. I kept implying the whole time we were having a nice, formal wedding, not “casual” so nobody got the wrong perception.

Post # 27
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

oh no – this scares me! i was thinking about having a “black tie optional” gathering, and spreading the dress code via word of mouth. since it’s in the summertime, i don’t want women to feel they must wear long dresses. i’m really glad i read here that the growing interpretation of “black tie” means long skirts!

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