(Closed) I got my first "Is it real?" comment….

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
530 posts
Busy bee

Well, it was kind of rude of her to ask in the first place so I wouldn’t feel too bad about it. In this case, two wrongs does actually make a right.

Post # 4
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Peaceoutboyscout:  Of course, it is a real CZ! You left out the CZ part 😉 People who ask such questions don’t even deserve a decent answer.

Post # 5
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Peaceoutboyscout:  How rude. If someone is rude enough to ask, that’s exactly what you should say. 


Post # 6
1632 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

My ring is a real diamond, but the question is still tacky. If you tell someone your ring is not a diamond or other natural stone (thus educating them on stones) then you and your Fiance will br judged harshly. What is the purpise of the question? Ugh! It’s a gift. Do we really know what we are wearing??

Post # 7
1621 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Peaceoutboyscout:  Well, that’s a potential awkward situation.

Some would say you didn’t lie because your ring, in fact, is real.

Others would say you did lie because the unspoken/assumed intent of “real” is “diamond”.

At the end of the day, it depends on how you define “real”.  Personally, I’ve never gone around intentionally misleading others about my jewellery choices, but who cares if I did? It’s no one’s business but mine and my conscience.

If you feel you need to make the correction, do so.  If not, let it slide and (if you wish) commit to yourself that you’ll be upfront in the future. Or, don’t and rock your real CZ and come up with a good quip to shut down stupid questions like that in the future.

Post # 8
1643 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@Peaceoutboyscout:  in fairness she didn’t ask is that a real diamond, it was insinuated. So you didn’t LIE, it’s a real ring 😉 people shouldn’t be so darn rude

Post # 9
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had a sales girl at the mall ask me all about my ring, where Fiance got it etc, and she did ask if it was real.  I have a moissy, and I said it was real.  I mean, its a real stone… But I get your feelings about not wantint to lie. If a close friend/relative asks, I would definitely tell them its a moissy.  I felt a little bad because the girl looked young and maybe was shopping for rings with her BF.  Had she approached me differently, I would have told her where my ring was from.

Post # 10
1529 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Ah – don’t you worry. It IS a real ring right? She had the manners of an earthworm, while you did absolutely nothing wrong.

Post # 12
510 posts
Busy bee

Why is asking if it’s real considered rude?  With so many other diamond-like stones out there in rings, it’s a genuine question. Maybe she noticed something about it and was curious. 

Post # 13
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Peaceoutboyscout:  I wouldn’t feel too bad about it, she should have never asked that question.  You were just caught offguard and it probably would have been more awkward for you to explain it was a CZ and promise ring. 

Post # 14
9948 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Lol, good on you !!

You’ve made some “traditional” Etiquette types (myself included) proud… because

(a) She was beyond RUDE


(b) You used coy language to answer / deflect an inappropriate Question

She was flat out RUDE when she made the inquiry…

You were smart because she didn’t ask “Is it a Diamond ?”…

She asked “Is it Real ?”

You answered that Question…

“Of course it’s real”… Lol, the part you left out is that it is a REAL CZ

Priceless !!

She got the answer she deserved… and if it ever comes back on you, you can point out very clearly that…

(a) She was beyond RUDE to ask such a Question and that in truth NO ONE OWES her an answer, and

(b) You did nothing wrong… you answered the Question posed.

Thanks for giving me the best laugh of my week here on WBee !!


Post # 15
1063 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

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@Peaceoutboyscout:  Sounds fine to me.  I mean, what’s the alternative, a hologram or something?

I’m happy to talk about my moissanite with people, but if anyone asked if my ring was “real,” (versus “is that a diamond”?), I would say “yes” without hesitation.

Post # 16
2093 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Peaceoutboyscout:  Yep! It’s a real CZ! You just forgot that part. 🙂 You’re human.

EFF her. Maybe she had too many glasses of wine. Either way…it was rude. Who cares what a ring is…it only needs to matter to you! 

And PS – people pass off crap all the time. Purses, watches, wallets, being happy,…haha. I’m not saying that you are or did that but people just need to chill and stop being so judgemental. Or just keep it to themselves. Geeze.

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