Post # 1
Hi Bees – So the one thing I really could not let go of was the photography. There was a specific photographer I wanted very badly who I’ve followed even before our engagement occurred.
Last night I got over it. I truly let go emotionally and realized that no matter who shoots my wedding, I just need a few great photos. I don’t need it to look like a Vogue spread. I’m a grown adult who lives on a strict budget and due to the economic downturn, I’ve got to get even more practical than I was before. Is she a great photographer? You bet. Would I love to have her shoot the wedding? You bet. Will I be bummed when the photos are nice and not great? Absolutely. But what it comes down to is that I want my man to respect me and I need to respect myself. I can’t tout personal finance to friends and family and then go on and splurge on something like this. I can’t ask my loverboy fiance to spend 40% of our budget on a hipster photographer who’s working on making her career when both of our careers are sitting at a stand still. The practical has finally gotten control of the emotional and I am so relieved. I work on straight commission as an art dealer and must realize that things are not like they used to be. I’m financially responsible, and I’m going to sleep better now that I’ve given up on my little dream.
Post # 3
Aww, I feel you :(. I had a dream photographer, too, but she was like, $4,500 base. There was just no way in Hades that was happening. I ended up finding a fantastic photographer for about half that price. Keep looking, and maybe you’ll find someone great, too.
Post # 4
@sfchick: Good for you! My moment of clarity will come…just waiting…
Post # 5
Hugs. That was a toughie! Good for you. 🙂
Post # 6
This happened to me too. The ‘good’ photogs in Napa start at $4000, so I just had to accept that it wasn’t going to happen. Lucky for me I know someone who used to do wedding photography, but now works for a company that does family photos, senior portraits, etc. She’s wonderful, and is only charging me $500.
Do you know anyone who has photography experience?
Post # 7
That is tough! I know what you mean though. My favorite(stalked their blog since before I even met my FI) was triple our budget, then I moved on to another one that was double. I’ve finally accepted that I can find someone good (maybe not quite as great) within our budget. Everyone says you’ll never look at your pictures after a year…but I still want them to be amazing!
Post # 8
Good for you! I had the same experience. My dream photographer was way over budget and it took a long time to plant my feet on the ground and understand that it was just not going to happen. After a lot of searching we found a photographer who we think will do an awesome job and he is within our price range. At the end of the day, everyone will end up with at least enough gorgeous photos to fill an album.
out of curiosity who is this dream photog you’re refering to? Mine was Stephanie Williams.
Post # 9
Good for you! I’m still hoping on my dream photog (yep, been stalking her blog since I first met the FI!) but I’m starting to get worried that she’s too flaky/busy to book. I sent her an email last week and still haven’t heard back! Not to mention she will be at the high end of our budget. So I might have to let go, and hope for someone more reasonably priced, and more attentive to our needs.
Post # 10
Great decision.You may want to try hibiscus…
Post # 11
@sfchick: I can definitely relate to where you’re coming from. If it’s really unrealistic to your budget, sometimes you have to let it go and realize you can still be happy with a photographer at a lower price point. I feel in love with so many amazing photographers’ work online, but I ended up saving money and going with someone who does decent work at a lower price.
Like you said, it might not look like a Vogue shoot, but I know he’ll still do a good job capturing the day with more than enough good shots from some framed prints and an album. As long as you have enough to remember it by, I’m sure you’ll be happy!
Post # 12
Do you think these photographers will realize they need to reflect the economy? they all can’t be working– so the question is 1500$ and a gig better than asking 4k and no gig?
Post # 13
YOu made a great choice. Its hard we went through a simalar situation with photographers.
Post # 14
Oh my goodness, did I write this post?? lol
I just did the same thing… I couldn’t spend what would end up being almost HALF my budget (after tax and travel) on photography… Would it have been worth every penny if I had the money? of course. But I dont, and if I spent that much there wouldn’t be much of a wedding TO photograph. So I went with my second choice, who I actually liked more based on her personality and energy. I talked with her a bunch about what I’m looking for and she seems confident to be able to work with me, even if it’s not what she typically shoots (she tends to get more modern and punchy brides, where I’m more rustic/vintage/whimsical). She seems excited to shoot it, and I’m getting her for over $1600 less than the other photographer, getting an extra hour, and getting 4×6 prints of all of my pictures. Oh and she is having a special so I also get a complimentary photo session (either bridals, or trash/rock the dress) on top of what I’m already getting.
I definitely got a better deal. For all that I’m getting it will be worth every penny!
ETA: Keep looking an you will find the best photographer that you can afford for your wedding
Post # 15
Aww!! Don’t be bummed! I got a photographer who is charging me a fraction of what other’s cost. But his work is AMAZING. Nothing less than those ‘pro photographers’. I guess one must understand that true photography is a work of art and is thereby priceless. So if you find a photographer other than your ‘dream photographer’, don’t pre-judge them! You won’t know how good (or bad) their work is until it comes out. You might be pleasantly surprised!!!!!
Post # 16
If it makes you feel better, while you do need a good eye, most of it is photoshop. I’ve used Traumaphobic to retouch photos before, he charged $15 for one, but if you get multiples he will give you a deal. Email is: c.s.tole[email protected].