Post # 1
A male coworker of mine just got married and he said this is the best advice he got through the wedding process. He passed it down to me, and now I’ll share it with the hive. I’m seriously considering writing it on post its and sticking it everywhere, my car, on my comp..just to keep reminding myself…ok so here it is:
“On your wedding day, only one thing has to happen.”
I have found myself obsessing over photographers, and decorations;Worried what people will think about just about everything; even stressing about our budget. I think it’s really easy to lose perspective and focus on the reason why we’re even doing this…it’s TO GET MARRIED. So for the next 11 months I’m still going to plan, but I’m going to try and keep it in perspective. Nothing could go right on my wedding day, but as long as we’re MR & MRS DIVERPEOPLE nothing else matters, and it will still be the best day of our lives.
Post # 3
That is good advice! I recieved some simmilar advice. I was stressing about flowers and someone told me “you will be just as married even without a bouquet”
Post # 4
My little motto for the planning has been…
“Don’t let the details get bigger than the purpose.”
It has really worked. It’s so easy to lose sight of the bigger meaning of the day.
Post # 5
This is soooooooooooo true and it rang even truer on my day. I loved my day as much as I would have if lots of things went wrong. On the wedding day all I could think of was my man and the fact that we were getting married. Nothing else mattered. Also, noone else (other than who you tells) know how you saw things in your head, so they won’t know what is supposed to and not supposed to happen.
It is easier to realize this on the actual wedding though 🙂
I giggled at Mr. and Mrs. Diverpeople lol
Post # 6
Ahh yes great advice… Just implementing it is sooo much more difficult IMO!! I keep trying to remind myself if we have a place to get married, someone to marry us and good food to serve people for coming well be ok… but then I find myself slipping back into the obsession about centerpieces and Djs etc
Post # 7
I tell people that the perfect wedding doesn’t equal the perfect marriage. Even if everything goes right that day, it doesn’t say anything about your relationship so I think some people need to put some of that time and energy spent on flowers on their significant other.
Post # 8
@PrncssDva: well i couldn’t put Mr & Mrs Divergirl or Diverboy lol
@eseds: I agree it’s easy to say (especially people talking after their wedding) but hard to do. I think it’s a good way to get myself back on track and focus on what’s important.
Post # 9
@divergirl: THat is perfect and you know what else? Sara from 2000dollarwedding.com put my shit straight. It’s not about the favors or the limos. It’s about bringing two families together during an event that reflects you as a couple.
I was being sucked into the wedding industry complex and sara’s blog smacked me in the face and said “WAKE UP! The ONLY thing that is important is that you are marrying your best friend!”
So we have a new vision for our wedding and it’s turning out so much better.