(Closed) I got this gem the day after the wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would respond and tell her why and tell her that you are suprised that you thought she would be invited being that you had not spoken in so long and that you really felt like the drama she caused made it seem like a better decision to leave her out.  That is if you ever want to have a friendship with her again..if not.. just ignore her.

Post # 4
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5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would have deleted the message and moved on. I don’t need extra nonsense in my life.

Post # 5
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Ignore it.  She is just looking for a  responce. You said you hadnot tlaked to her for over 8 mo. proir to your weddign and she drained you then. Why have that stress in your life.   Just smile, your marreid! and you don’t need that kinda of friend in your life.

Post # 6
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304 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

agree. if you dont need to get in any conversation or conflict with her; just ignore her.but if you still care i guess you can end up explaining to her why she wasnt invited.

Post # 7
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

@LGenz: Agreed. It’s clear that she thrives on drama and an email back would only fuel the fire. Just ignore it and move along with your life!

Post # 8
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14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sounds like a refirmation that you made the right choice in not inviting her.  Delete and move on.

Post # 9
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2742 posts
Sugar bee

@Ryansgirl: Don’t respond. You will get into a back and forth and justifications all over the place. The friendship is over. You mourned its loss 8 months ago. Don’t dig it up again.

Post # 10
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1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ignore it. I agee with the PP who stated that she is trying to get a rise out of you.

Post # 11
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1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@bRooklynRocks: Ditto, dont respond. No point.  I would probably want to get a word in, but fight that urge! it will only bring more drama

Post # 12
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1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would ignore it. Well, actually, I’d be dying to respond explaining why she wasn’t invited, but I think it’s best to ignore it.

The friendship was beyond salvageable if you made the decision not to invite her to the wedding. She hasn’t been a good friend if she’s brought drama into your life and hasn’t even been in touch for nearly a year.

You did the right thing by ignoring it.

Post # 14
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3799 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would ignore it and let the friendship fade. She obviously wants to create a long lasting fight just for the sake of drama. Let her feed her dramatic appetite elsewhere.

Post # 15
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would NOT respond to her. She obviously sent that to emotionally poke you and prompt you to react. You have already made the decision to cut out of your life for valid reasons, there is no need to rehash the situation. It’s done. She said what she needed to say, now you have a happy life with your new husband and forget that she even existed.

Post # 16
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2554 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d be really annoyed, but then I wouldn’t reply. Like, you said, it looks like she enjoys the drama. I had a somewhat similar message from someone before. I was extrememly annoyed/angered by it, but there was no reason to reply, nothing for me to say to it, so I didn’t.

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