(Closed) I guess every bride has at least one RSVP problem. . .

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

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TheQuickBride:  I would say sorry, we have reached our capacity and already turned in our numbers to the restaurant. Please arrange for child care for that evening.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Agree with PP. Just tell him final numbers are already sent. It’s your wedding, she’s not your family so you have no obligation to say yes, especially this close to the wedding. Don’t feel bad either….it seems like he’s been kind of annoying with changing RSVPs and you have been quite gracious.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Explain to him,  that her sitting on his lap isn’t the problem,  but that the fire marshal counts her as a person,  and  the venue is only allowed a certain amount of people by law.   You’ve reached that limit. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

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TheQuickBride:  Haha…my brother is doing this to me too (but thankfully, in my case I’ve got the space & time to accommodate him). In your case, however, if you don’t want the kid there, I don’t think you’d be out of line to stand your ground; you’ve already given in once by allowing him to bring a guest to your small wedding, he’s kinda pushing it here asking for this. I agree with PP that the easiest solution would be to simply cite venue capacity, etc. as the reasoning. If he’s Out of Town, offering to find a reputable sitter would be a nice (although not necesary) gesture.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - Undecided

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soontobemrsKB92615: YUP! Nicest way to put it. His girlfriend has already been included, if she can’t get child care she can stay home with her child. Mean but truthful. You are having a small wedding and only invited your cousin. 

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Do not give in.  It could end up ruining your vision of your wedding.  I would just say, “I’m sorry, we won’t be able to accommodate her daughter.”  I wouldn’t even give a reason or excuse.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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TheQuickBride:  that sounds like a good way to phrase it that can’t be thrown in your face later! 

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