(Closed) I guess I am just waiting on a ring?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

To answer your first question, yes, that makes you BF/GF.  He sounds like he wants to propose with a ring, so you’re not going to be engaged in his eyes until he’s able to do just that.

If you aren’t engaged yet, you shouldn’t have a set timeline for the wedding date.  You don’t know what your budget/guest list will be or what venues will be available and within your budget. 

Also, I have no idea what “spiritually engaged” means.  Did you ask him?  Sounds like he’s just giving you something to keep you pacified until he can afford the ring to propose the way he wants to.

Don’t rush things.  Don’t plan your wedding before he proposes to you.  Why do you want to get married Fall 2013/Spring 2014 if you don’t graduate until May 2014?  Wedding planning can be stressful, and I wouldn’t have wanted to take that on while still in school, much less so if I was so close to graduating.

 

And, honestly, you wouldn’t get “yelled at” on TK for this post.  You’d get various opinions.  Most would be insightful and helpful, but probably not want you were hoping to hear.  🙂

Post # 4
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432 posts
Helper bee

tbh i’m pretty much in the same position, i know that my SO wants to be with me forever and he wants uss to get married in the next couple of years but he doesn’t want to be officially engaged without a ring, even tho I said I wouldn’t mind but at the end of the day he wants to do it properly and ask my dad and all of that stuff and I admire him for that, and I just think to myself that this man wants to be with me forever and altho it may take a while for uss to be able to get a ring or get married it will be worth the wait so I don’t worry about it, you just got to think you will get there in the end :] and you know he wants the same things as you :]

 

Post # 5
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

as long as you know he shares your thoughts on engagement and marriage, it has to make your waiting period happier. hope it happens sooner rather than later! 🙂

Post # 6
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1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

this is a strange position to be in.. but maybe consider yourselves bf/gf until a proposal for this reason only: 8 months will FLY by.. it always does, so saving the title of FIANCE and ENGAGED couple for the proposal will make things so much more exciting when it happens. I know it feels like 8 months is forever but its not! You can do it! You have us!

Post # 7
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3421 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

@Seashells7:  “you shouldn’t have a set timeline for the wedding date.” +1 but guilty of it myself.

 

Yeah They’re still our Boyfriends. It sucks but thats what it is. They are still getting their ducks in a row. So use this time to get YOUR ducks in a row too. It’s really no rush (I am telling myself this as well at the moment)

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