(Closed) I guess I’m a terrible Catholic :S

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

*hugs* I’m really sorry that your priest worded it like that, but also, in his defense, going to church on Christmas and Easter is not acceptable in the Catholic church. My whole (extended) family is Catholic and they would agree with your priest. Maybe you could find another parish that you feel more comfortable attending? As for the “getting married by an Anglican priest”… I don’t know what you mean by “what would happen?” but I would imagine the marriage might not be recognized by the Catholic Church.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m sorry your priest was so harsh. Unfortunately that is true in the Catholic church. If you don’t go every Sunday, you need to go to confession before accepting communion. I don’t think they feel you are a terrible Catholic though!

I just started going to an Anglican church after being raised Catholic. There were just some things I didn’t agree with in the church, so decided to try making the switch. I believe the only thing that would “happen” if you got married by an Anglican minister is that the Catholic church would not recognize your marriage. If you’re not going to church, then this really shouldn’t matter.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

There are several differences but I have found it is pretty much the same.

1. Like you mentioned, they accept divorce.

2. They allow females to be ordained.

3. They are supportive of birth control

That’s all I can think of at the moment. The masses run basically the same and a lot of the prayers are the same.

Oh, also, they don’t require you attend every Sunday in order to receive communion. They also don’t require you to be baptized Anglican to receive it. If you are baptized any religion you can take communion.

I kind of find it to be a more liberal version of Catholicism.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I should also add I am in no way an expert and go to church about twice a month!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m sorry you’re having such a tough time getting married in the church.  I know some areas are… stricter… about belonging to a parish in order to have a Catholic ceremony.  And I’ve definitely noticed that people who have “connections” to a church (e.g. knowing the priest, having a relative in the parish, etc…) sometimes get the rules bent in their favor.

If having a Catholic ceremony is really important to you, which it sounds like it is, maybe you could contact your local diocese?  The diocese might be able to point you in the direction of a parish or priest who is more liberal on this front.  I’ve also found parish secretaries to be great resources in the wedding planning process.  Secretaries can often tell you what the rules of that parish are and if there are any priests who might be willing to work with you even if you don’t exactly meet the requirements.  If you do get married by a non-Catholic priest, maybe your best bet would be to look into a post-ceremony Catholic blessing or convalidation ceremony.  Good luck in your search!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

To answer your question about what would happen if you got married in the Anglican church- I think the Catholic Church just wouldn’t recognize it. So they would probably tell you not to take communion until you rectify the situation (i.e. get your marriage recognized by the Catholic church- in which case you’d be in the same situation that you are in right now).

And unfortunately, I agree with your statement that a church is like a business. How else will they get money to run the church and its programs without donations from parishoners?

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Just to add to the list above – Anglicans no longer have true Apostolic Succession.  In the Catholic Church, every priest has been ordained by a bishop, and like a family, descended from the original 12 Apostles, and Peter, the 1st Pope of the Catholic Church. 

Because of this broken line, they also don’t have the “true presence” of Jesus in the Eucharist… which… brings me back to the OP….

“But, I just find that they are being so unwelcoming if you haven’t been going to their church giving money to them every week.” 

The church doesn’t want your money.  Do they need it to keep running? Yes. In some ways they ARE a business.  They have staff they need to pay (who barely get paid.) They have Air Conditioning to run, they have lights and power to pay for, and programs to help those in the parish and community.  However, the church is first and foremost a “community” “One, Holy, Catholic, and Apostolic.”  We NEED you in the church. Your presence not your money.  Just like in the bible, Jesus recounted of those who would come to temple proclaiming all the money they would give, and he praised the small widow who gave but 1 small coin.  We are a community, and a part of the body of Christ, so while his delivery really was off, Yes, We NEED you… your presence, your prayers, your participation in the Heavenly Liturgy which is, The Mass. So, don’t let him turn you away.  Priests are human… they say things that aren’t kind at times. I do too… 

And, The church (since the time of Jesus) required active and frequent participation in the liturgy.  Since, we believe, that by receiving communion, we are PHYSICALLY receiving Christ, it only makes sense that we are as pure as possible.  After all, when a guest comes to your home do you not clean house first? You are recieveing the Body of Christ and are them sent to bring him to others. This is why we leave so quickly after communion. You would think that with all that just happened on the Altar Jesus would want us to stay and bask in the Heavenly glory… but no, “The mass is ended, let us go to love and serve the lord.” 

“IF” you were to be married in an anglican church, or not within the practices of the Catholic church, then your marriage would not be recognized.  Just like when you were baptized, Marriage is a Sacrament, just as important. After all, there’s only 7, well 6 if you include the fact that Marriage and Holy Orders are a “choose one” kind of deal.

It seems you do love your faith, and the church.  So, I would either find a new church… or just begin attending regularly… I think you’ll find blessings in going back… 

You sound a lot like my best friend.  If it wasn’t for the fact that she passed away 8 years ago, I would think you were her.  She too was baptized, but parents never went.  She came with my family and I to mass every week and then completed her Sacraments, about 4 months before her death.  It’s hard to break the cycle but it can be done. I wish you all the best, and keep us updated!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

WHOA! You’re in Belize??? I’m getting married there!!!! I, too am Catholic.  I looked into a Catholic wedding in Belize and actually found a priest that wouldn’t marry me on the beach, but that will come and give a Catholic blessing during the ceremony.  

He is in Belize City, and I totally forget his name, but I have it written down in my Belize stuff.  He sounds like a really nice guy.  Maybe you could talk to him.

 

I am getting married by my priest here in Kansas before I come to Belize so that I don’t have to go through Convalidation. (That’s where you have to wait a year to have your marriage recognized by the Catholic Church if you marry outside of it).  

 

Is your Fiance Catholic?

I’m so excited I found someone on here that lives in Belize.  What do you do there?

 

Post # 16
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Worker bee

Just wondering what the difference between a Catholic marriage blessing and a convalidation ceremony is? (or are they the same thing).

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