Post # 1
I’ve been assuming this for a few days now and thought I was okay with it but it’s just nagging me right now. For different finacial reasons, I thought it best to have my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses made. My Aunt offered to make them free of charge. In return I asked each Bridesmaid or Best Man for $30 to help put towards hotel accomodations for my aunt for the wedding. Everyone was cool with it. Well, she did a few dresses and they didn’t turn out as planned so I asked the remaning girls to find a seamstress in their area to make their dress. I found a pattern as close to the dress as possible. My aunt was sewing them freehand. All my other Bridesmaid or Best Man has either gotten their dresses made or their dresses are in the process of being made.
I still have my MIA Bridesmaid or Best Man material and I don’t have a good address to send it to. I’ve been calling, texting, sending messages on fb and she will not respond to me. I left her a message saying that since she didn’t budget for this, I can find someone to do the dress for her. So basically I’ll pay for it. Still nothing. All my messages were bubbley telling her how much I can’t wait to see her and how much fun we’re going to have and she hasnt’ responded. Her phone called me by mistake and I could hear her ordering food then she hung it up. I’ve been on FB the same time as her and sent her a message, she hasn’t responded.
I guess it’s also fair to assume she won’t be attending the wedding because all those messages I left I also mentioned the room block and she hasn’t blocked her room or inquired about rooms.
What’s so hard in picking up a phone and saying to your suppose to be best friend Hey, I’m sorry but something came up and I am no longer able to be in the wedding. I gave up a few days ago because I have less than 30 days to go and I still have so much stuff to do. I can’t sit worrying about her. I know she is alive and well because she has been posting on FB. It is what it is. I’m going to enjoy my day with my other ladies.
Post # 3
let it go! you are owrth so much more than something so petty. Think of it as extra air you can breathe. Move on . dead weght
Post # 4
I am sorry that your friend is not returning your calls/emails. Is there anything at all that has happened to bring this about? She maybe waiting for an apology and is being stubborn and you not even know it. Not excusing her behaviour (which is childish) but there maybe something behind it.
The other thing I noticed in your post is that you call her your best friend yet you don’t even know her address. Sorry but that doesn’t sound like much of a relationship. it just makes me think there is much more behind this story than her lack of communication.
Post # 5
@Sparklydelitebride: I thought I did but I guess with 28 days to go and everyone calling with all the excitement and not to hear from her hurts.
@j_jaye: I said I don’t have a good address to send it to. For some reason the post office has returned mail I’ve sent to her. The card asking her to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man, the save the date etc. She just moved. We decided it was best to send it to her work address because I did one color materials for friends and then my family in a different color. Her color is discontinued and I didn’t want to risk the material sitting in a post office to be returned to me. Nope no argument or any thing. The last time we spoke she was asking for advice about a new guy she was dating. I asked her if he was coming with her and she said she was hoping but he works every other weekend and my weekend was his weekend to work and she didn’t know if he could switch. We joked and laughed and that was the last time we spoke. I figured probably it was about money that’s why I left a message telling her that I could have it done for her but no response.
Post # 6
@mrsjjohnson2b: That is really weird then. Could she be having serious money issues? Do you have any shared friends? and if so has she been in contact with them? Maybe you could use them as a go between? Get them to say that you are really worried about her because you have not heard from her etc etc.
Post # 7
@j_jaye: She may be having money issues that’s why I offered to have the dress made instead of her having it done but she still hasn’t responded. She post on FB all the time going this place and that place so I know she isn’t sick or has no way of contacting me. All her post are happy post. I have no idea what happened.
The only thing, which wasn’t a big issue was that she didn’t like the second dress but the other girls didn’t like it either. Everyone loved the first one. I told them all that I want them to be comfortable so they can all find a pattern that they like and have the dress made. It just all had to be in the same fabric. So even though I picked a dress she didn’t like, I still gave her the option of wearing something else. Which she ask if she could have a split in the front. I told her I don’t care it just had to be in that material.
I wasn’t forcing her to wear a dress she didn’t like or anything so I don’t know. I’m paying for hair, make up. They can wear whatever shoes they like. I have no clue what went wrong.
Post # 8
So weird. Personally, I’d be annoyed at having to have a dress made rather than just ordering one, but I don’t think that’s a friendship ending thing. The lack of response is ridiculous and childish. I’d try one more time, and leave a point-blank message requesting a response if she’s still planning on being in the wedding or even attending, for that matter.