(Closed) I guess weddings really do show people’s true colors….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Maybe she’s just embarrassed by her financial situation and doesn’t feel like responding to badgering or questions about it. Try not to take it personally.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Why would she block you on chat? I think there is a big miscommunication between you guys. I understand forgetting to RSVP but this sounds like something bigger is going on. Could she be mad about something?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

That is very strange behavior on your friend’s part.  Can you think of something else that might have happened to make her upset and block you?  Emotions can start to run very high when you get this close to the wedding. I understand why you are upset but I would let it go for now and stop trying to contact her and assume she isn’t coming.  After the wedding excitement is over maybe you can revisit this and contact her and ask her what happened if you still want to try to maintain the relationship.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I kind of went through the same thing as you. It can be super frustrating since it’s not hard for them to just flat out say sorry I can’t make it.  My advice would be to just tell her that because of her nonresponse you had to assume that she will not be coming. Then just let the relationship fade. You might open up a whole can of worms by telling her that you’re done with her. It the end you might end up more stressed by writing her an email where she may become defensive. In my experience, you’d save yourself a lot of trouble by letting the relationship just die on its own. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

How do you know you were blocked on Facebook chat? Was someone else talking to her at the same time? It was my understanding the blocked person does not receive notice they are blocked. I agree with Statutory Grape, she can’t come for whatever reason, and she didn’t want to send a decline after telling you she would come for sure. She’s not right to just ignore you, but it happens sometimes. Cross her off the list and wait for her to instigate contact with you. I would NOT send an angry email right now. You’re stressed out and angry, and you may write something you regret. Just let it go for now.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

SHe might have something else going on in her life, like she is a little jealous about your marriage or having financial issues.  I’d really let it be and if she contacts you, great, and if not, you can reevaluate after the wedding.  Try and enjoy the next few weeks.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have atleast 1 friend like this.  very flakey, sometimes really close other times ignores my texts/calls/emails.  She did not rsvp to my wedding either but eventually texted me she would be coming.  I’m not sure what you can do.  I’d say leave her out.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@carmel bride: What will “standing up for yourself” accomplish? It’ll just cause a whole lot of drama, which you really should be trying to avoid this close to your wedding.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I can’t believe people changed when I got engaged and started to plan my wedding.  I had friends stop talking to me, I had co-workers make horrible remarks to me like ‘Don’t do it!  You will regret it for the rest of your life”.  It has been really hard to be happy for my wedding when some of the most important people in my life keep bringing me down.  I did have 2 friends that did this to me and it did break my heart.  One told me she didn’t want to come because she wouldn’t get enough alone time with me the other was totally ready to come to my wedding a month ago and now I just got a note from her saying because I decided to go on long vacation I don’t think I can come to your wedding.  I have definiately found out who my true friends were in all of this and I am not going to waste anymore time on the other ones.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@carmel bride: Same deal with me. We had great convos up until I asked about the rsvp. Then she totally stopped talking to me. I tried email & facebook messaging since I was planning from a different country. My girl was also really flaky (I wonder if it’s the same person =]). To this day, I have no idea why she did stopped talking to me. I was truly upset and vented to my Fiance a lot.

In the end, I let it go knowing that I was the bigger person. I did nothing wrong. I didn’t need to keep chasing her. I felt like putting her in her place would just show her how important she was and I didn’t want to give her that satisfaction. I didn’t want to give her the satisfaction of knowing that I was upset. To me, that meant that she won. I don’t know if that made any sense. 

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