(Closed) I H-A-T-E my engagement ring.

posted 4 years ago in Engagement
  • poll: should I wear it

    It's gaudy but rock it anyway, it's the thought that counts

    love it!!!

    Tell him that it's not my taste.

  • Post # 31
    4323 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    Oh wow. I’m hoping for the “it’s a joke” angle too. Maybe he got a screaming deal on it at a pawn shop and just couldn’t say “no”? I’ve seen threads like that before. I can’t imagine wearing that thing for the rest of my life. If, Heaven forbid, that is the ring he purchased, I think you should speak up. 

    Post # 32
    1701 posts
    Bumble bee

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    bebe1080 :  

    If it’s not a joke, you can deconstruct that ring into a few pieces of pretty nice jewelry!! 

    Post # 33
    593 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    Wow. This is the first time over ever seen one of these threads and I’m can’t see how anyone would like it. Glad he’s happy to return it, though.

    Post # 34
    509 posts
    Busy bee

    It’s a lot of ring. I’m here to see if it’s a “joke”. If not I think you should tell him. I’m sure he wants something you would love 

    Post # 35
    2481 posts
    Buzzing bee

     I’m on Team Joke. I hope you come back showing your actual ring that is perfectly suited to your simple, elegant taste. kiss

    If it is not a joke, I would absolutely say something. I am the Queen of Gaudy with my awesome vintage rings, but that one… nope. IMO, it’s gaudy without any sense of design.

    Post # 36
    6935 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

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    bebe1080 :  Eek. I usually think these types of posts are major overreactions but I totally agree with you. Hoping it’s a joke!

    Post # 37
    583 posts
    Busy bee

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    valintine :  I agree with you! I’ve never seen such busy engagement ring. the center stone is pretty though and maybe you can do your rose gold with the with center diamond. Be honest  but kind and work on getting the ring you will love to wear and show off! 

    * my husband said, they’ve been together 8 years & he doesn’t know her better than that? why didn’t he do what you wanted? Men are weird sometimes

    Post # 38
    391 posts
    Helper bee

    Well that certainly is a statement piece and wouldn’t be suited to many women.  I’d talk to him about reseting it, although hopefully, it’s a joke.  You can get an ering, wedding ring(s), and I’d go for some earrings too.

    Post # 39
    10 posts

    Did you two discuss the ring you had in mind before he bought it? ie. did you show him any pictures you like? If you didn’t, just say “I’m sorry, it’s not my style. I prefer something a bit simpler, we should have talked about it, I can’t see myself wearing it day to day etc etc”. If he chose that particular style because of financial reasons, maybe offer to chip in if the ring you fall in love with costs more. And be careful, if his mum has said that she likes the ring, don’t say “it’s so over the top!” It might be that his mum or a relative of his has a similar style and that’s why he chose it, and they might get offended. You said he’s happy to exchange it, so as long as you’re tactful and don’t put him down, it shouldn’t be too hard to change styles. I wouldn’t bother resetting it into an eternity band or necklace or whatever, unless the value of the stones outweighs the workmanship costs. And it’s not like you’re trying to trade up or anything, you’re actually simplifying, so just have a talk with him as soon as you can, then go pick out the new ring together and enjoy being (soon-to-be) engaged!! Good luck bee! 🙂

    Post # 40
    4696 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Um ….hate is a strong word but I can see what you mean! I’m usually an advocate for just wear it but in all honesty that thing is unwearable…  It is very Mr T – esque. 

    He would of paid a packet for it but I think you should bring up an exchange or get it to a jeweller and get a solitaire and two baguette wedding bands made out of it.

    I  would use the angle of it being cumbersome for everyday and maybe that it may be extra uncomfortable when you have to add and wear a wedding band with it as reason to exchange.

    Good luck; 

    Post # 41
    264 posts
    Helper bee

    I hope it’s a bad joke!

    Post # 42
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee

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    bebe1080 :  I hope its a bad joke. Thats one helluva ring, and not in a good way.


    Post # 43
    5362 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Wtf was he thinking?!

    Post # 44
    58 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    Omg…that is some ring. I agree with the other bees the center stone is lovely. I would definitely tell him the truth!! It’s you that has to wear it forever!

    Post # 45
    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    bebe1080 :  What’s with the weird tags on the initial post?

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