(Closed) I had an abortion about a 1.5 ago and it still super hard…kinda long

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
3879 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@sfigu16:  I have no advice, as I haven’t been in your shoes. But your post really touched me, and I can sense the pain you must be going through. I just wish I could give you a great big hug and take you out for a cup of coffee or a beer so you could have someone to listen to you.



Post # 48
773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Wonderstruck:  And it isn’t anyone’s place to say that abortion is the “right” thing to do either because there are those of us who feel QUITE differently about it and our beliefs are just as valid as yours.  I’ll refrain from discussing the matter any further out of respect for the OP because she is already hurting and I don’t want to make her feel any worse, but people should be allowed to disagree as long as they are being respectful, as LadyBunnylot was!  She was quite sympathetic and supportive towards the OP.

LadyBunnylot, you have my utmost respect for standing up for what you believe is right in a world where anyone is too afraid to speak up.  Thank you for having the courage to defend what you know is an unpopular opinion, but most of all, thank you for retaining your compassion in doing so because we would achieve nothing positive by hurting people who are already hurting enough.  We need more people like you in this world.

Post # 49
773 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

OP, as you can tell from my previous comment, I’m a pro-lifer but I am truly sorry for your loss.  When I was a member of the local Pro-Life Society, we watched videos and one of them was about how much pain and anguish that abortion often causes the parents.  I saw women and even men in tears telling their stories, recounting the nightmares they’ve had, and talking about the incredible guilt they feel.  It’s honestly one of the reasons why I’m a pro-lifer.  However, I am NOT here to judge you.  I only want you to know that you are not alone because others have gone through this (and continue to go through it).  There are support groups which you may find helpful.  It’s a long road to recovery but you will get there and hopefully you will use this experience to start a new chapter in your life.

Post # 50
206 posts
Helper bee

I hope you seek therapy, and your boyfriend, too. I really think it would be the best thing for you both. The decision you made is probably one of the most difficult ones a couple ever has to make, and it can be very traumatic. I believe things play out the way they do for a reason, and this is definitely something to learn and grow from. I’ll be praying for your recovery <3

Post # 51
74 posts
Worker bee

First, please forgive yourself.  I was in your same situation when I was 19 and this was over 35 years ago.  It does take time to reconcile your feelings and come to terms with the entire process.  You don’t forget, and when the time is right, you will have the family of your dreams.  Please accept my support and a hug.

Post # 52
393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I had an abortion a bit over two years ago which I do not regret in the slightest.  It was, without a doubt the best decision for me and my bf (now FI).  

I’m so sorry that you are exeriencing this regret, however. I would also encourage you to seek therapy to help you move past this.

I think what  @MammaMouse:  said is quite true.  You don’t ever forget about it, but, one day, you will have a family of your own.  I’m pregnant now and Fiance and I couldn’t be happier – I believe everything truly happens for a reason.  Positive thoughts are being sent your way <3

Post # 53
1726 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


PM’d you!

Post # 54
6317 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@sfigu16:  A bit late to comment, but I am so sorry for what you’re going through.

At 19 I think I would have done the same thing. Please try to forgive yourself. This is a sad situation all around but you did what you ultimately felt you needed to do at the time. It’s never an easy decision.


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