(Closed) I had my first bridezilla moment…and I’m not sure I actually feel bad about it

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

This made me to a palm-slap to my forehead. Blue and silver when your colors are gold and purple??? Who will care about the photos??? No wonder you blew up!

I am the last person to give mother-daughter advice. Maybe after a day or two you can call her and maybe find out her reasoning behind getting a dress that is the opposite of what you requested?

Post # 5
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7777 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Y’know. I really, really empathize. My mom was a nightmare through my planning. She was the root of 95% of any drama that took place. I probably would have blew up too.

I wouldn’t give in. You gave her one rule ot follow and she decidd to ignore it. Not okay. If you give in on this issue, next thing you know she’s going to go do something else you dont like. If she’s anything like my mom, it’ll just snowball.

I would maybe apologize for yelling, but still put my foot down about the dress.

Post # 6
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1391 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Are you having a rehersal dinner? Maybe she can wear the navy dress to that

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have to say, I don’t think it would be the end of the world if she wore a navy blue dress. I get why you’re frustrated, considering you have her one simple guideline to follow and she already has a dress that would match the colors you want. But honestly, it will not make a difference what color dress she wears, as long as it’s not like bright fluorescent orange (or white, lol). In the pictures with your family, you probably won’t even notice the background colors…not to mention the whole idea of “Wedding colors” and “Wedding themes” sooo does not come across in the same way you think it will on the actual wedding day. You’re not going to have the flowers next to the invitations next to the cake next to bridesmaids…you know what I mean? I get that the navy blue doesn’t match your vision, but isn’t it more important for her to feel comfortable and be happy? I guess I just think this is one of those “pick your battles” times..and maybe this isn’t one that you should spend time and energy fighting. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I don’t think you are being unreasonable.  You asked her to find a dress with specific colors and that was ACHEIVED!  It’s not like she couldn’t find a dress that you requested.  Mom is out of line and sounds like a brat ~ sorry.  🙁  As the other posters stated, perhaps she can wear it to the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 12
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1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am going against the grain on this one. My thought is as long as you rmother feels great in her dress who really cares. Really think about the pictures she will be in. It won’t ruin your pictures of the bridal party or of the ones with your husband. Will she really be in that many pictures?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

@MandaMack:

hahahaha, after looking at that picture of the chairs, I realized they have silver on them.  So, she can wear her navy and silver dress and match with the chairs that she hates so much. hahahahahahaha

 

That just made me laugh so hard!  Good eye! lol

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MandaMack:  Can you see a swatch of her dress?  Some navy blues can have a purplish cast to them.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve got to agree with Mrskesslertobe, I dont plan on having our parents in any pictures with the bridal party so them coordinating isn’t really an issue. Of course I dont want either mom wearing a bright red dress but they wouldn’t choose anything that flashy anyways. I understand your desire to want everything to match but I don’t think navy blue would be that bad. I would never force my mom to wear something she’s not comfortable in so if your mom is genuinely not comfortable wearing the gold dress then I think you should respect that. Then again, this is your wedding and in the end what you say goes so put your foot down if you really feel strongly about it!

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