(Closed) I had no idea WeddingBees privacy and deletion policy was so messed up

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BearcatBetch:  Its not a breach in privacy. If you posted something personal, like you name or address, you can message a moderator and they will look at it. If they determine that there is personal information in it, they will take care of it for you.

Post # 4
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1013 posts
Bumble bee

i will agree….its annoying. 

Post # 5
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

There is a stickied “Newbees please read” thread that outlines all the policies before you start posting. It’s important to familiarize yourself with posting policies before you start posting on any new online forum so you don’t get caught off guard. The Bee doesn’t make up these policies though, I believe that’s the decision of their parent company (E Harmony/InternetBrands I think?)

Post # 7
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339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree if I posted it I should be able to delete it.

Post # 8
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12974 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly, anything you post online is there forever.  Even a twitter status can be found in historical records of internet pages, even if it doesn’t show on your profile anymore. 

I agree with KatyElle: – this policy is clearly posted on the website and encouarges all newbees to read…

Post # 9
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2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I do agree that not being able to edit after an hour is a pain.  There are times that my threads get misunderstood and I’ll think of a better way to reword it so people understand what I’m asking, but I can’t edit it for that purpose if it’s been longer than 60 minutes.  It doesn’t make sense why we can’t at least do some editing!

Post # 10
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1488 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’m not a big fan of the policy either. I feel that I should have the power to delete something I post, but since we can’t I change details and whatnot to protect my privacy. I don’t want anything coming back to bite me in the ass….these posts are up forever and someone could see them years from now!!

Post # 11
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8883 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I agree too. There’s a post I made that I want to edit but can’t b/c it’s been so long. I feel your frustration 🙁

Post # 12
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1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I know it’s frustrating. There are some things I wrote when upset, etc. that I wish I could go back and modify or delete. But, everything is anonymous, which is why I guess I don’t consider it a breach of privacy.

Post # 13
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree that it would be better if the OP can edit past the 1 hour deadline.  I definitely have some threads I would like to see disappear into oblivion.  Lol!

Post # 14
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5371 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

I find it frustrating too, but it’s no secret that you can’t edit after a certain amount of time. Because of that, I’m very careful what I post. I don’t consider it a breach of privacy as the mods will remove personal information from posts, pictures, etc if you ask them to.

@KatyElle:  “It’s important to familiarize yourself with posting policies before you start posting on any new online forum so you don’t get caught off guard”

Exactly.

Post # 15
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2742 posts
Sugar bee

I should feel some empathy but honestly, I don’t. Don’t put your ish on the world wide web if you don’t want folks to read about it. As @KatyElle:  said, there is a sticky for newbies to read. But even without that sticky, you ought not to put your personal ish online OR use a name that folks won’t be able to identify you with. Honestly, I read a lot of emotional posts on the bee and I help when I can but some things make me cringe. I will DIE of embarassment if anyone knew that I posted some of the stuff I’ve seen here. Same with Facebook. Think before you post. Sorry.

It will be okay to delete but unfortunately, they don’t agree. Oh, and I don’t agree that you can go around editing stuff willy nilly. Although I’d love to edit for some grammar and spelling errors (cringe!) Anyhow, sometimes people say one thing, folks respond, then they want to go and change the original post. No, respond in the thread and expantiate (sp?) on what you wrote prior. That’s me though. 

Post # 16
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4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@BearcatBetch:  In this day and age, I believe that if you write it on the internet, its out there. Even if you delete it, you can’t take it back. Even if I could delete pictures of my ring I posted a month ago, I guarentee someone out there has copied the images and reposted them somewhere. The only way you can control whats out there is by not posting at all, or by posting only things you don’t mind other people reading. Its not ideal but its the way the world is. Even if you delete something off of facebook, its not gone. I had friend post about how she was going to throw my bachelorette party, and I asked her to take it down. Then I got asked about it by someone I didn’t even know, several days later. 

While I do think it would be nice to be able to edit my posts (like the spelling error I noticed a month later when I was checking responses to a thread I started), I do understand why we are not allowed to. I feel like I could respond to something, and if the person I’m responding to changes their comment, the conversation no longer makes sense. And I often read threads that have been started over an hour ago.

And none of this is meant to start a fight. You are allowed to be upset about the policy, but its your choice to post on the forum.

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