(Closed) I had some songs requested that I don't want played.. what should I do?

posted 6 years ago in Music
  • poll: What to do...
    Just leave them off and don't make a big deal about it. : (43 votes)
    90 %
    Don't be rude, let them hear their songs. : (5 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    I think you and your Fiance should treat this list of songs as “suggestions” and just not have them played.  They shouldn’t get too butt-hurt over it, right?  

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Ouch! That seems to have backfired on you! On the other hand, you didn’t say you would play them, just asked them to name a song they could dance to Wink

    I think play some of them and, if anyone asks why “their” song wasn’t played, just say there were too many requests to play them all, the DJ didn’t have it, you/your fiance didn’t really like that song, it wasn’t appropriate for a wedding (I’ve got a friend that would probably request Slayer or something, so I’m sure he’d understand us not playing it).

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I dunno about you but I’ve been to weddings where song requests weren’t played.  You couldn’t possibly play everyones songs.  I would just not even bring it up.  Chances are no one will even remember, and if someone has the nerve to bring it up, I would just play dumb and say “oh yeah… our dj didn’t play that song at all, did he… i can’t remember because I was so busy the entire night!”

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

    @LadyElva:  I like your thinking!

    Post # 8
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    178 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    A song request is that, A REQUEST, not a demand to play them.

    Post # 10
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    4518 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Just leave them off the request list. Ultimately it’s hte DJ who plays the songs, so they will probably assume he/she just didn’t want to play those songs because they didn’t fit the vibe of the party.

    Post # 11
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    777 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Yikes! I would definitely leave them off the list and just pretend it was an accident or that you had too many requests to accommodate. Or if your Fiance is really worried about it maybe you could compromise and play them during/after the rehearsal dinner instead (if you’ll have mingling music)? But I can’t imagine they’d bring it up, and if they like those songs so much, they can play them at your FSIL’s wedding 😉

    Post # 12
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Requests are just that requests – not guaranteed to happen. Just leave them off, in fact you shoudl put them on your DO NOT PLAY list if you feel that strongly about them!

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I did this exact thing, and didn’t play many of the songs that were requested.  Nobody complained at all, and if they did my response would have been “we asked to get a feel for the type of music our guests would be interested in hearing, and then trusted our DJ’s instincts to give us an overall playlist [big smile]”

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    I had people write on our RSVP’s “2 people and 5 pieces of cake please”  I wouldn’t take the suggestions seriously and you definitely dont’ HAVE to play them.

    Post # 16
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    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Treat them as suggestions. If people ask, just say “ohh the DJ must have run out of time…”.

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